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Need to vent rage about DH sending sexy emails

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I know I am one of the first people to say other mummas need to leave their SO when they post about this stuff but I just need to vent at someone.

DH and I have our problems like anyone else. We went thru a period where he was dealing with a porn addiction and made it thru the otherside, And in 2009 things got so bad between us he was texting other women sexually explicit stuff and I had a nervous break down ended up almost dying after taking all my medication. We ended up working everything out and got married this year the day after our sons first birthday.

Things seemed ok untill recently when I felt he wasnt being as affectionate as he usally is, but I put it all down to me being paranoid.

Well lastnight I was playing around with his iphone playing hanging with friends. I  logged on to his facebook and found he is doing it to me again. He is sending emails that are rather sexual to some chick. Telling her how good he is and asking her what she would do if he was naked. When I confronted him about it he tried to justify it by saying he was only having a joke. This is not the first time he has done this to me.

I dont know if I can forgive him this time. We have only been married 5 months so I really dont want to throw in the towel just yet. I am just at a loss and feel like an emotional wreck.

Sorry post is so long I just needed to get it off my chest.

by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 1:21 AM
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TexasWife
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Honest question. Why did you marry him? Did he prove that things were going to change? Trust me I have been through hell and back with my marriage. Anybody who honestly wants to work and save their marriage can. In all honesty it sounds like you need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him that it is disrespectful joking or not. Which to me the joking sounds like him trying to shrug off your feelings. Counseling would be great. Marriage and possibly he needs some 1 on 1.

nicci260
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Yeah, thats a hard one. He is clearly a repeat offender and as long as he thinks he can get away with he will try. I personaly would say be done, but maybe counseling would be a good alternative first...

Lizzys_mommy13
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:17 AM

If he has done it to you before and he is doing it again, what do you think the likely-hood is of him stopping for good? 
Get some counseling and try to go from there. From personal experience, this is going to be a long haul. 

nerdlihc3
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:21 AM

I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. Life is too short for bs and games. Happiness is what you make it and you aren't happy. Your child will not be happy either. It isn't just about you or the hubby,think of your child.  So you pretty much have a marriage that is based on his additction to everything but you.  Good Luck! 

MamaLub
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:28 AM
These aren't mistakes. These aren't issues you both need to work through. This is who he is. He doesn't respect you or the marriage. No matter how many times he hurts you, he continues to do this. Even though he devoted himself to you by law, he still thinks its okay to be sexual with other women. This will be your life if you stay with him. Catching him, thinking you fixed things then catching him again. Wash rinse repeat. There isn't a magical solution to fix this. You're right you've only been married five months. You should be in the honeymoon stage. You haven't been married twenty years so this much crap isn't worth working through. You won't ever trust him. Meanwhile you could be with someone worth your time. Why do you put up with this?
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SunflowerMom10
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:30 AM
My bf pulls that bs. I swear the next time I see anything we're done. I'm tired of it and deserve better. He hasn't done anything in months though so I think we're good :)
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boshs1andonly
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:38 AM

I agree. 

Quoting MamaLub:

These aren't mistakes. These aren't issues you both need to work through. This is who he is. He doesn't respect you or the marriage. No matter how many times he hurts you, he continues to do this. Even though he devoted himself to you by law, he still thinks its okay to be sexual with other women. This will be your life if you stay with him. Catching him, thinking you fixed things then catching him again. Wash rinse repeat. There isn't a magical solution to fix this. You're right you've only been married five months. You should be in the honeymoon stage. You haven't been married twenty years so this much crap isn't worth working through. You won't ever trust him. Meanwhile you could be with someone worth your time. Why do you put up with this?


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Machelle669
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 11:52 AM
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LovingSAHMommy
by on Jun. 4, 2012 at 12:02 PM

BUMP!

Snapdragon88
by Member on Jun. 4, 2012 at 12:06 PM

That is such bullshit when guys say, "Oh it was just a joke!" WhatEVER. I am so so sorry that you had to find something like that. 

What was the girl saying?

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