How old was your mom when she had you? What was your life like when you were that age?
Reflecting On Your Mother's Life When She Was Your Age
When I became a mother, it changed the way I look at my own mom.
Made our connection deeper. Made me want to know so much more about how
she was as a parent in those days when I was just an infant. I also
like to think about where she was in her life when she was at those milestone motherhood moments. And compare it to where I was or am in mine.
I was 37 when I had my twins, living in NYC -- in Brooklyn. When my mother was 37, I was 12 and my sister was 9. We lived in Queens. Despite the similar locations, our lives were so different when we were both that age. She was well into motherhood; and I was just learning. Learning from her. My mom was 25 when she became a mom. And 25 was quite a year for me as well.
I was going through a sense of uneasiness when I was 25. I felt unsettled, like I wasn't in the right place or doing the right things. I felt unaccomplished despite having just finished post-graduate studies at college. I didn't know what I wanted to be -- if I should go the safe route and become a teacher or the potentially unstable route of pursuing my writing career. It was around that time when I started doing some very deep thinking and had an awakening. I ended up moving back to NYC from the Hudson Valley. A move that eventually led me to my husband, the man who helped me become a mother.
At the same age I went through that, my mother, when she was 25, was adjusting to new motherhood. I'm sure there were times she felt uneasy, she was learning so much about herself, about me, her newborn. Perhaps the parallels were buried in our subconscious. Maybe something in the 25 year old me was channeling my 25 year old mother. She was embarking on a huge life change, as was I. She was something I knew I wanted to be someday -- a mother.
It's kind of poetic when you think about it.
I think I will do this every year -- reflecting, remembering, asking my mother questions and filling in the blanks. It makes me feel closer to her, teaches me things, gives me even more memories.
What about you? Do you ever reflect like this? How old was your mom when she had you? What was your life like when you were that age? What about now? Share your stories.
she was twenty, and i was her 4th, i was working alot and trying to be everything my mom wanted in a daughter.
I had my daughter at 19.
I'm only 22 so not sure
My mom was 22 when she had me, I was baby #3. I'm 22 now and hubby and I are thinking about another baby. She got married at 19 and so did I. That's where the similarities end. She had 3 kids in 3 years. My oldset is 6, youngest is 3. She married an abusive arse, I've never heard my hubby yell. She didnt' pay any attention to her kids, I do AP. I basically took everything she did and did the opposite.
Quoting ProudMamma1982:
What happend if you don't mind me asking?
Quoting mommyjenn84:
My mom was 18, im the oldest.
When I was 18, I was drugged out and.makig horrible choices till i.had my first right before 20.
Im now 28 and my mom was a single, struggling mom of two at my age. Im having my 4th and am about to be married a year next month.
Im honestly more worried about where ill be at at 32, the age she died at.
18, 28 & 32 in my moms life have always stuck out to me.
I'm 24 now, mother to one 10 month old, own our home, married for 3 years. At 24 my mother had 3 girls, her Stbx was found out he got the babysitter pregnant.
I am very happy to say that I learned from my mothers mistakes, and it makes my life a happier one.
I'm glad my life has gone the way it has. I had my dd at 22 and DS at 27.
How far is too far???
- Cafe Steph
on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:25 AM