UPDATE...today I took SD shopping and I talked to her about the whole don't spank my kid issue. I told her that I'm glad she looks out for DS. And I explained that I feel its just not her place to spank him. I'm his mom I hardly ever spank like I said before I only do as a last resort. I usually put him in timeout. And I really want to have that option. By spanking him
Before I even knew what DS had done I felt she took the option from me. She actually understud and even said sorry for it.I told her I am sorry if I over reacted but my mommy protector instinct kicked in . She said she did it on impulse and didn't mean to upset me but she wont do it again . I also showed my dh this post and talked to him about him not supporting me or Co parenting. I think he understands but I don't know if he's going to work on it.
Myself and SD had fun today things were a lot better were both fine now that we talked so I'm happy. Thanks for your responses I appreciate it. It made me think about this from more than one angle and helped me calm down so thank you ladies xxx you rock!