My SO had a bad relationship before me. His ex has 3 kids and he thought the first two were his but third wasn't. She even told the judge the third one was his. He has found out this last year the middle child is not his and the youngest one is his. Right now we have visitation with the two older ones and are going back to court to get everything fixed with the youngest. He meets his ex in Safeway parking lot to drop the kids off. Sometimes he has to go to work early and usually his sister takes them. Well she can't take them today so I was going to take them and have his 17 year old niece go with me. I have ran into his ex a couple times and nothing has happened. We are both polite but don't really talk. Now he's trying to get off work so he can take them. He told me it was because he didn't want to lose any time with them. But he wasn't worried about it before he found out I had to take them. He only works part time and I basically support our family right now. So I told him I didn't mind taking them today and he should probably work because we need the money. He then admits that he lied he didn't want her to be upset that I dropped them off and then send someone besides her mom or her to meet him. I'm am ok with his thinking because she does have some shady friends but I don't understand why he lies to me. He always lies about little things and says he just didn't want to upset me. So I've tried to explain to him that I would rather be told the truth. And 99% of the time the truth wouldn't have caused an arguement but the lie does. He gets upset because I question him but I said I question because he has lied so much about things that don't matter. It really upsets me that he continues to lie. Am I overreacting?
on Jun. 19, 2012 at 4:08 PM