and she calls my fiance daddy because that's the only dad she knows, he's been in her life since she was a year old and she's about to be 4. I just always have bio dad lurking because he owes so much child support and she has his last name. She still doesn't know her last name and I have a really hard time bringing myself to tell her then having to explain to her even though I know i will have to. Then i feel bad because she does have half sisters that she doesn't know that live with him. We were married for a short time while she was a baby and when we got a divorce he was in jail and wasn't at court and now has 0 rights to her which is the way i want it. I'm just dreading explaining these things to her when she's ready not to mention she is fixing to start school and so it'll start with the name and go from there. How do you explain to your little girl about a biological dad that hasn't been around since she was a little baby? btw he knows how to get a hold of me and has never attempted expect this one time where he asked me around tax time how he could sign rights over only because he owed so much child support. I would just rather drop the child support because he doesn't pay it anyways and move on without that over our heads but she's on medicaid and they won't let me drop it unless i drop the medicaid as well which i can't do. anyways this is just kind of a vent..
Any of you in a simular situation? how are you dealing with it? and when and how did you start explaining things to your child? makes my heart sinks just thinking about it.