what am I supposed to do, I cant drive either lady (vent)

[ikesmommy200]

In the past I have taken this woman to the food bank a few times. She is disabled and doesnt have a lot of people to get rides from. She does drive but because of medical reasons she is restricted from time to time. Out of the goodness of my heart I have taken her three or four times. Mind you she lives 15min from my house and the food bank is another 45min from her house. It is always on a saturday and I have to take ds with because dh works saturday. She never pays for gas and I never get any food as I feel we may be on a tight budget since I had to quit working but we still make it. We usually end up there for 2-3 hrs and there is no way to occupy my 3 yr old that long. Plus this woman then expects me to drive 10 under the speed limit and only drive the route she wants which takes longer, and when I do go my route and do the speed limit she freaks out. Then when we get done she expects me to go to walmart and do her shopping while she waits in my car. After all is said and done she expects for me to not only bring everything in for her but also put everything away. So I am now on restricted activity myself, no drivng, walking and standing is restricted to 10 min, no heavy lifting, and no being outside after 9am (which the waiting area is in a church parking lot). Well I had to tell this woman I cant take her this month and she freaked out. First telling me I need to find someone to drive her and then crying that she needed that food so bad. She really doesnt even need the food, she has 3 pantries, a full freezer and a regular fridge freezer combo filled with food. Many times the food ends up in a box in her living room because there is no room. She gets $125 a month for food stamps, meals on wheels for breakfast and lunch, commodities, senior food, and rural empowerment. I just feel used and unappreciated. I cant drive and I have gone out of my way and spent money and half a saturday on this woman more than once and she doesnt even give a crap when I run into a hard time.

[Mommy4-27-08]

Yeah, I would just tell her no and be done with it. She sounds rude and that behavior is totally disrespectful

[kayandjsmom]

Goodness,.it sounds like you have helped a much as you could. I would let it go.

And is there any reason she can't shop and put away the items herself?

[ConnorMom228]

It sounds like she has mental issues. I wouldn't worry about her. It sounds like she isn't going to starve any time soon. Just worry about taking care of yourself right now.

[MamaCat1121]

Rest and take care of yourself. She's a grown woman she'll survive.
Focus on you so you can take care of your child. Don't feel bad. Can't control that you are restricted too

[mrscass0416]

I would just let her know that I can't help her anymore. She can find a church or center to take her. I think she's more taking advantage than anything. Sorry you have to deal with her and if she can drive herself in during the hours she is allowed.

[mamaslove4ever]

This

Quoting ConnorMom228:

It sounds like she has mental issues. I wouldn't worry about her. It sounds like she isn't going to starve any time soon. Just worry about taking care of yourself right now.

[Luv2BaMommy9809]

You owe this woman nothing further, darling...you did for her what and when you could do it.  It is more than what most would do... You are amazing for all you did...seriously.  She can be upset all she wants, but you have to be at peace with it because you did go above and beyond...

{{{ HUGS }}}

[ikesmommy200]

she uses the excuse she just had her hip replaced. Still dont know why she cant shop with a scooter and put up some of her food

Quoting kayandjsmom:

Goodness,.it sounds like you have helped a much as you could. I would let it go.



And is there any reason she can't shop and put away the items herself?

[ikesmommy200]

she uses the excuse she just had her hip replaced. Still dont know why she cant shop with a scooter and put up some of her food

Quoting kayandjsmom:

Goodness,.it sounds like you have helped a much as you could. I would let it go.



And is there any reason she can't shop and put away the items herself?

[ikesmommy200]

she uses the excuse she just had her hip replaced. Still dont know why she cant shop with a scooter and put up some of her food

Quoting kayandjsmom:

Goodness,.it sounds like you have helped a much as you could. I would let it go.



And is there any reason she can't shop and put away the items herself?