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What the hell is wrong with my effing sister!

Posted by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:21 PM
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This might end up being a long one sorry ladies.

 

Ok so today I get a call from TFI which is basically CPS ( child protective services) to tell me that my neices have been taken into state custody and that I am the closest relative to them and that if I cant take them then they will be placed in a foster home. So I of course say that I am more than willing to take them. I then have to have a tfi worker come out and do a walkthrough my house to make sure that my house is a "safe living enviroment" for the girls. (it is btw) Then after that I have to fill out 5 million forms that basically sum up to Yes I will take care of these kids and get the to all the appointments and what nots and NO I will not beat them. After that I have to sign papers to agree to the back ground check (not a big deal) then I have to go to TFI to meet up with another worker who hands me 10 different folders and binders that are for the girls and im not supposed to lose them then we head over to our SRS (welfare office) building to get the girls now mind you we drive a 3 seater truck so there was no way in hell we were going to fit me SO and DS in there with 2 extra kids. so this other lady has to follow us allllll the way back to our house. We live a good 30 minutes from there. We get there and I finally have a chance to ask some one WTH happened and I am told that it is all in the RED book I was given but that it basically summed up to my neices were taken for missing the last 2 weeks of school (truancy) mental and physical abuse from both mom and dad ( their parents are split up not even in the same town) and for neglect!!!! WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARE YOU FRIGGIN KIDDING ME????// How does somethign like this go unnoticed for so long. I mean my neices are fucking skin and bones and covered in bruises!!!!!!!!!!! I am sooo upset I just dont know what to do! All I want to do is cry I just took on 2 extra mouths to feed and bodies to cloth! They dont even have any clothes with them all they got to bring was the clothes they had on!!!!!!!! I dont have any money at the moment I am currently jobless but on the search for one every chance I get! ( I have an interview on thursday) SO is working as many hours as he can and we just arent able to make it on just one income! I am stressed beyond belief right now I just want to cry!

 

 

*** UPDATE ***

 

 I just got of the phone with one of the workers. They are doing everything they can to get us some help. I will get a small check for having them here but it is about $4 a day per kid. so $8 a day. Which is not much but any bit helps!  As for clothes they are trying to get an emergency clothing voucher approved right now. They are going to call me back. I am waiting for the other worker to call me today and tell me what we need to do on that side of everything will update again when I know more.

Posted by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:21 PM
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NovaChick26
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:25 PM

wow Im so sorry to hear your going through this I cant even imagine the stress. Im glad that your nieces have you to take them in though foster care can be a scarey place. I dont know how it works but would CPS or state require your sister or the girls father to pay child support to you?

mrs.stamey
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:26 PM

Contact your social service office they will help you.

mandyjh
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:27 PM
((HUGS))
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sissy852
by Narcissa on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:28 PM
this


Quoting NovaChick26:

wow Im so sorry to hear your going through this I cant even imagine the stress. Im glad that your nieces have you to take them in though foster care can be a scarey place. I dont know how it works but would CPS or state require your sister or the girls father to pay child support to you?


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CatherineNewton
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:30 PM

Oh my I am sorry goo dluck on your interview. I hope you get it. And cry it will help. I always feel better after a good cry.

bethanyb0325
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:30 PM
Oh no!! I'm sure there is some help out there to get those girls things they need.
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marilyn623
by Member on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:33 PM
Wow I'm sorry! I thought they paid people in situations like this. Could you contact some churches or something?
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MommySwiggles
by Bronze Member on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:40 PM

I hope your nieces thrive with you.  Sorry to hear you are struggling, social services should help with clothes.  Check and see if you qualify for food stamps now that you have two other people in your home.  Good luck!

missingme07
by Member on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:47 PM

 They typically would but neither of them work they are both worthless. That and this is techinally considered a temporary thing until one of them can get the crap straight.

Quoting NovaChick26:

wow Im so sorry to hear your going through this I cant even imagine the stress. Im glad that your nieces have you to take them in though foster care can be a scarey place. I dont know how it works but would CPS or state require your sister or the girls father to pay child support to you?

 

missingme07
by Member on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:57 PM

 They do and will but that is going to take a few weeks to get everything processed through.

Quoting marilyn623:

Wow I'm sorry! I thought they paid people in situations like this. Could you contact some churches or something?

 

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