AM I OVERREACTING????

[pinkstilettos]

My SO is friends with a girl that he used to sleep with. the relationship was primarily sex and he says that it just never blossomed into anything.. to me you can't be friends with sex partners or old flames it's just dis tasteful. I FIND IT AWKWARD that they text one another constantly, but she's supposed to be engaged and just had a baby over a month ago.. Im due in August. He say's that there just friends and that she asks about me all the time (rolling eyes) but she added on me a facebook and never said a SINGLE thing I never even knew who she was until he saw and pointed out that I had added her. If she's so baby friendly and wanted to be friends with me, wouldn't she introduce herself?? it's been MONTHS.??

At first I put up with it. but it just became too much and I don't need the added stress. So I told him out of respect for me could you please not mention her to me or your convos, because it makes me feel uncomfortable :/. I never said that he had stop being her friends just don't mention her to me. he kinda threw a huff and said ok. I asked to see his phone other day and he got flustered and said no.. i asked why and he said "well let me see yours" i offered it to him and he looked strange just said no again then walked away??

My bff is moving away so I was complaining about not going to have her around. he didnt care and said good ridience and that i'll make more friends. And the girl he used to sleep with is already planning my new baby and her baby play dates wtf?? I DONT EVEN KNOW HER.

He called her recently and her fiance got on the phone and was really nasty to him. about why he was calling? what did he want? and who was he? I guess i'm not the only one that feels this way..

my thing is if they cared about their SO's( US) feeling wouldn't they cool it or just stop??

Sooo cussed him out hung up on him & I deleted him and her and blocked him from calling or texting me. Me and my LO just dont need the stress..AM I OVERREACTING?

[Fields456]

I only read the first paragraph. Yes you can be good friends with some one that you just had a relationship and or just sex with. I am really good froends with one and dh is now one of his best friends. However I fully believe if you are going to be friends with a taken( in relationship or married) person of the opposite sex you should make the effort to be friends with their partner or spouse.

[Anonymous.]

No your not over reacting. They are both acting shady.

[pinkstilettos]

right but there's no effort. to be friends.

And I'm sorry a sex partner I just can't agree I feel like it it's either her or me.

[stephjohn]

not your not. if he wont show his phone he is talking to her the wrong way gurantee it

[pinkstilettos]

yep that's what I thought too 

[ikesmommy200]

I dont know. My husband asked me to stop being close to my ex bf when we got married. It wasnt worth it to me to argue about it so I still talk to the ex, but not nearly as often. At the same time I feel if you fully trust someone you dont need to worry about it. It doesnt sound like theyre being really shady. Me and dh dont go through each other's phones or other stuff. I like having a little privacy and it does piss me if he wants to snoop (not that he really does). I know he feels the same way.

[PerfectVirgo]

Idk. I don't always make the best decisions, but I'd probably call up and ex and plan a "harmless lunch" and see how he likes it....

[mom_of_one_2010]

If it looks like a fish, its a fish. If it acts like a fish, it's a fish. If it smells fishy it is fishy

[xTattooedxMommy]

Might be overreacting a little by deleting him and blocking him and cussing him out but I understand getting angry and heat of the moment.

I used to fight all the time with my S/O over him Texting a coworker all the time that he never dated or anything! They were just "friends" from work. Turns out the Texting was more flirty and my gut was right. I stopped getting angry and over reacting and sat down with him and told him how I really felt about it and he stopped Texting her. I told him I don't mind if they are friends and talk at work but I thought the Texting was getting out of hand and I didn't like it.

Maybe just try and sit down and talk with him if its a relationship you still wanna continue.

[i.m.r.]

Idk hun. Df and I have always been very respectful of our issues with old flames. I had an ex that he was uncomfortable with me talking to because they always made jokes about out past etc. In the end he was more important to me than the ex so I cut contact out of respect for his feelings. He also had an ex that he cut contact with out of respect for my feelings. But he's also never hid his phone from me or facebook. I was always able to see all texts and conversations because he had nothing to hide. The fact that your so isn't as open about that stuff is a bad sign. Good luck though. I hope hr mans up and realizes this petty bs isn't as important as you and your new life together. *hugs*