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Has this happened to you? Sex TMI

Posted by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:02 AM
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Today SO thinks I had my first orgasm. Yes, it took years. I finally got one of those bullets and it works amazing. SO had my tied down and was using the bullet on me. It felt good but at the same time it was uncomfortable. For some reason, I just can't get myself to just enjoy it and I make him stop(that's why I was tied down lol). SO said I finally came but I didn't even notice. Before he told me that, I got a cold feeling down there. It was like I used Icy Hot or something. I've never had that feeling before.

Like I said, I never had an orgasm before this. I wouldn't haven even known until SO told me that I squrted. Has anyone else ever experianced this?

I've been trying on my own for years, I've had a few other sex toys too. I've been with only 3 guys and it took SO 4 years to even get to this point lol I can't get myself to keep going on my own and I beg SO to stop just because it gets warm and then cold and then I get uncomfortable. This time he didn't let me stop. I agreed to that before he did anything though.

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jshalas89
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:39 AM
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You would know. You probably just girl versioned of "pre came". Your whole body would definitely let you know that you orgasmed. I would try doing it by yourself and then introducing it in the bedroom since you've never experienced orgasm before. This will make you more comfortable and aware of your own body and reactions. You def did not orgasm if you don't even know if you did or not.
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Izzybelly1991
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:42 AM

I've been trying for years. Literally nothing. I can't even get close. I always stop and idk how to make it feel good. It just feel uncomfortable and then the vibration makes me itch for some reason. SO said that I did squirt though and that's how he knew. Like it wasn't just me getting more wet.

Also, it wasn't like I was just laying there doing nothing. I couldn't stop squirming. And I was breathing heavy and just couldn't control a lot of things lol But my foot wouldn't stop twitching and it was driving me insane lol

Quoting jshalas89:

You would know. You probably just girl versioned of "pre came". Your whole body would definitely let you know that you orgasmed. I would try doing it by yourself and then introducing it in the bedroom since you've never experienced orgasm before. This will make you more comfortable and aware of your own body and reactions. You def did not orgasm if you don't even know if you did or not.


2babygurls.h.f
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:44 AM
If you O'd, you would feel it everywhere. Your whole bod would be an icy hot patch. I also suggest playing with it.. experiment with what feels good, better, great, and best.

Once you find that out, your gonna be a wild thang that your hubs won't know what to do with. No shame in playing around! Just do it!
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jshalas89
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:47 AM
Well thats strange! Maybe watch porn? Or have sex while using the toy. Clear your mind, don't think of anything else but the sensation. I've never heard of orgasming and unsure if you did or not. Idk.

Quoting Izzybelly1991:

I've been trying for years. Literally nothing. I can't even get close. I always stop and idk how to make it feel good. It just feel uncomfortable and then the vibration makes me itch for some reason. SO said that I did squirt though and that's how he knew. Like it wasn't just me getting more wet.

Also, it wasn't like I was just laying there doing nothing. I couldn't stop squirming. And I was breathing heavy and just couldn't control a lot of things lol But my foot wouldn't stop twitching and it was driving me insane lol


Quoting jshalas89:

You would know. You probably just girl versioned of "pre came". Your whole body would definitely let you know that you orgasmed. I would try doing it by yourself and then introducing it in the bedroom since you've never experienced orgasm before. This will make you more comfortable and aware of your own body and reactions. You def did not orgasm if you don't even know if you did or not.


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Izzybelly1991
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 1:50 AM

lol I watch porn all the time. My computer has a virus because of it :( lol But it doesn't help. We actually used the bullet tonight after everything and SO loved it on my clit while we had sex because he felt it. It felt good like it did when he was doing it to me but the feeling wasn't what I expected. 

Quoting jshalas89:

Well thats strange! Maybe watch porn? Or have sex while using the toy. Clear your mind, don't think of anything else but the sensation. I've never heard of orgasming and unsure if you did or not. Idk.

Quoting Izzybelly1991:

I've been trying for years. Literally nothing. I can't even get close. I always stop and idk how to make it feel good. It just feel uncomfortable and then the vibration makes me itch for some reason. SO said that I did squirt though and that's how he knew. Like it wasn't just me getting more wet.

Also, it wasn't like I was just laying there doing nothing. I couldn't stop squirming. And I was breathing heavy and just couldn't control a lot of things lol But my foot wouldn't stop twitching and it was driving me insane lol


Quoting jshalas89:

You would know. You probably just girl versioned of "pre came". Your whole body would definitely let you know that you orgasmed. I would try doing it by yourself and then introducing it in the bedroom since you've never experienced orgasm before. This will make you more comfortable and aware of your own body and reactions. You def did not orgasm if you don't even know if you did or not.



SweetDea
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 7:46 AM
you would know. i am not an expert seeing how i haven't been sexually active for long at all. but i knew every time i've O with him, and i O several times before he gets one.
Vero2410
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 8:22 AM
You would know if you did. You would feel extremely good
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ProudMommy51006
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 8:27 AM
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You would know. I think you are thinking too much
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yikesitsmindy
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 8:49 AM
You would know. Wetness is not really an indication of orgasm. It reallyis one of those you would know if ithappened situations. Try alone toys may really be too much for you right now. Use your fingers.
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LadyEmrys
by on Jul. 7, 2012 at 8:50 AM
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i think i know what you mean. 

i tried for years to orgasam, and was feeling worse and worse about myself that i couldnt seem to. i enjoy sex, just nothing i did or dh did seemed to quite make it happen... we would try and it would feel good... then really good.. and then either immediately get uncomfortable and id HAVE to make it stop, like it was panic related... orit would just kinda stay at where it felt good and never change, no matter what was done...

finally i descided to stop worrying about it. i was going to do what felt good and not try for anything other than that. i starting making myself enjoy what i DID feel instead of worrying about what i didnt. and i started noticing something. it wasnt fireworks and it wasnt shattering... but it was there. sometimes you just have little orgasams. you have to build up your muscles and confidence and practice, and they will get bigger.

so.. try keegles. try wanting what you do feel instead of what you think you should be feeling. good luck hun. ;p

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