So i had my doctors appointment for the baby and they did the ultra sound and everything checked out good. The doctor at that point needed to ask some questions and part of that was birth history of my other 2 kids. No problem. She asked weight and length and how long i was in labor etc etc...
So DD was born 7lbs 11oz. 20 inches long. at 38 weeks she was a c-section.
DS was born 8lbs 1oz at 36 weeks 6 days.19 and a half inches he was a VBAC
So she had put int he computer that with DD i was a FTP (failure to progress) i corrected her and said no. I was fully dilated and i pushed for 3.5 hours but she wasnt coming out. with the labor i had and the horrible shit i had to deal with with those doctors and nurses.....long story short, she wound up a c-section and they had to put me out for it.
DS labor went insanely well and he was a VBAC. no issues at all.
SO the OB looked at me and said .........how were you able to have a bigger baby with no c-section and have issues with the smaller one? I sort of explained the hospital situation and ...pretty much that entire horrible shit experience and how long i pushed for and her head was stuck etc etc....and not only that but i was smaller person when I had DD. I was a little bigger when i had DS. but no i did not have issues. She gave me a look and just said hmm. After the appointment i was in the hall filling out paperwork for my blood work and i overheard her talking to a nurse that i probably just didnt want to give birth vaginally and opted for a c-section because i was a teen mom with her.
Im sorry but no. that is NOT what i wanted. i was damn upset i had to have a c-section and to this day i have felt like a complete failure all around with the birth and breastfeeding with my DD. i didnt sit there and say i dont feel like pushing out a kid, i want to be cut open and be miserable for weeks and feel like shit for a long time about all of this! that was NOT the case. in fact with DS i was pushing to NOT have a c-section unless i absolutely had to and everything went fine.
It just pissed me off is all. so far shes the only OB (i think shes actually a NP??) I have seen and i see my regular one at my next visit but it just all around pissed me off.