I used to be this easy going gal, until about 4 years ago. That is when I thought I met the love of my life. The problem was that I was so full of life and he was a tightly wound person. As time passed, I have found myself being very miserable and just as negative as him. I couldn't believe it. I am having shouting matches with the man I supposedly love. This is my first relationship, so I didn't know what to think. Therefore, I stuck around. Year after year passed, and nothing has changed. Problem is, we have a child now. All that drama that was happening before our son, is now happening in front of him. I am fed up with exposing my son to this kind of environment. I try to break up with him, but I always let him come back. Don't get me wrong, I am in love with this man, but how do I let him go?
thank you a06z08mama for your words of wisdom. It really gave me a diferent outlook. I will try out counseling...if that's something he is interested in, I am going to have to call it quits
I have to agree.
Quoting a06z08mama:
Follow your gut. Mine was about like that. Have you thought about counseling? Together and individual? I know mine would have been amazing but when the other isn't ready. Then either stick by and wait or leave keep your head u girl!
Good for you for realizing that this is not the type of environment you want your kid to be witnessing.
You have a couple of options: a) If he is willing to go to couples' counseling I would strongly suggest it. b) Dump the mofoe and move on. Get custody and support arrangements in place and move on.
You can give the counseling 6 months to work. If he refuses to go then you have your answer. Enough is enough. You can love someone and not be capatible with them.
GoGirl1983, I can tell you right now Honey, you are not in love w/this man.. You are in a toxic co-dependency w/this man.. As you posted, you break up w/him, then you allow him back.. When does the child fit in her??. How long is going to hear you two fight?? Considering this enviroment, this baby has to be first in this mess.. You already know what needs to be decided.. Take Care, Donna....
Good luck I hope everything works out.
Quoting BettyBookWorm:Good for you for realizing that this is not the type of environment you want your kid to be witnessing.
You have a couple of options: a) If he is willing to go to couples' counseling I would strongly suggest it. b) Dump the mofoe and move on. Get custody and support arrangements in place and move on.
You can give the counseling 6 months to work. If he refuses to go then you have your answer. Enough is enough. You can love someone and not be capatible with them.
so sorry hun... wish i could give you advice but for once i dont have any :/ {{hugs}} 
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- GoGirl1983
on Jul. 22, 2012 at 12:24 AM