I never thought I would be posting this...UPDATEinRED
*UPDATE* THANK YOU SO MUCH TO EVERYONE(trying to comment back) I got on tonight thinking that I probably wouldn't have any replys, and I had 80! I cried ladies! CRIED reading them. First off, THANK YOU for complimenting Lyric. I think she's absolutely beautiful. Second, I live in Oklahoma so her name is like EXTRA different here! But I LOVE that! Third, I have a notebook and I'm writing down EVERYTHING. He sent me some pretty nasty texts that I have saved in my phone! I am speaking with a rep from the family court system as of Monday.
But in all honestly I think he was just trying to scare me into him being able to controll me. I was always there after everything. I just let him walk all over me.
As of yesterday I stopped arguing with him. Never raised my voice. Didn't resond to any messages unless they were about Lyric. AND HES ALREADY PISSED OFF THAT IM TAKIN CONTOL! haha. I'm in my parents house right now but found out today I GOT ACCEPTED INTO A APARTMENT!!!!!! OH YESS!!! I will be doing ME and LYRIC and I'll show him whats up!
I wanna thank you all for your prayers and ask you keep doing it! God wouldn't let anything happen to that beautiful angel! I've already gotten 10x more confidence after standing up for me and lyric for JUST ONE DAY. He has no idea whats gonna hit him!
THANK YOU ALL I LOVE YOU GUYS! (damn im crying again)
i'm 21 years old, I have a beautiful daughter Lyric who is 8 months old.
I met her father at one of his concerts. Since then we have been together. That was 3 years ago in aug. We seriously were good for each other. i put up with alot of his shit. He had gotten 2 DUIs and he was going through a drug court program. Jail time. supported his band. supported him when he lost his job for over a yr. took care of his friends. lots of things.
then i got pregnant and we had to move in with my parents to save money. he would party and not come home. while i worked tons of hrs to help save money and he would just spend and spend. we were there for almost 7 months and had nothing to show for it. so i took out a cash loan and got us into a small apartment right before lyric came. he was perfect whhen she was first born. helped and everything. but i think he got overwelmed. then he wouldn't come home. started lying. he got out of drug court finally and the partying just got worse. drugs were started.
then he started leaving for weeks at a time saying its b/c i didnt clean good enough for him? as in cleaning house? i cleaned and cleaned that house but it was never good enough for him.
he kicked me and lyric out saying that i dont clean good enough and if i cared about him i would clean house better. im back at my parents house. and he moved another girl in with a son age 2. so i doubt cleaning was the problem.
well this girl hangs with people who smoke pot alot! and they do it around their children. i do not want lyric around that. so ive been trying to let him see her but i dont want her there. he keeps choosing her over lyric.. so i dont feel bad about him not seeing her.
this is what i need help with...
yesterday he called screaming and yelling at me about how hes gonna take me to court and take lyric from me and ill be paying him child support.
can he do that? he hasnt helped me with her for 2 months. hasnt bought ANYTHING. has seen her maybe 3 times total. MAYBE.
I do everything for her she is my life. she is all i have right now. i cant lose her.
p.s sorry so long i have no one to turn to...
my babycakes lyric elaine
Good luck!!! Op you'll be fine! :-)
Quoting slashteddy:Get a lawyer before he does. They'll be able to give you way better legal advice than anyone on here, unless there's some CM users who are lawyers. Good luck. :(
O I'm sorry mama. Get a lawyer but if he is into drugs then you probably wont have any problem getting full custody. good luck your baby is beautiful by the way and I love her name!
Awesome advice ladies! And lyricsmommy347...I am going through what your talking about pretty much, right now!. I can't say too much right now, but sweetie, just go get an attorney, file for FULL CUSTODY and request only SUPERVISED VISITS for him. Write down everything, every time he calls, what he says, time, date, and so on. If you see him in person, write down if he appears inebreated. EVERY detail. Use legal aid if you need to! But get it done and you will never have to worry again. Someone had posted if he comes and steals her from you, God forbid it ever happen, you have the cops on your side with full custody! Don't wait!! You are drug free and that's all it's going to take to win that. Drugs = unstable and no judge will put any child in that situation.
And I want to add, Lyric's name is so freakin unique and beautiful and I just adore it. Seriously, other kids are going to be jealous that she got such a cool name and they are stuck with something NOT so individual as it!
What's her middle, if you don't mind me asking?
When it's just all too much...
- lyricsmommy347
on Aug. 9, 2012 at 2:27 AM