needing relationship advice (LONG!)

[savdenise]

So here is the back story...
My fiance and I were together 11 months when we found out I was pregnant. Engaged for 3 of those months.
He has been engaged once before. He was with her for almost 3 years. And she supposedly cheated and he moved across the united states to be with his mom.
Well soon after he proposed to me, she found out and started texting him again. He told me right away so i didn't really have a problem. It got to the point where he would stay up texting her til about 3 in the morning, then sleep all day when I was up. I told him that I didn't appreciate it and he stopped talking to her. About 2 weeks later they started talking again..
We fought/ had arguments about her on and off since we've been engaged now. He sent her pics of the ultrasound and told her it was a boy when he knew that we were keeping it a secret til our shower and things like that.
Fast forward to now..
He supposedly hadn't talked to her in a while and she added him on face book. And he accepted. He knows I HATE them talking so I added her as well. She messaged me first and was being nice so I was being friendly as well. Trying to focus talking about pregnancy related things (she has 2 kids) (not his)) she would tell me how much she missed him and it was very awkward! Well we had been talking for about 3 days and we were having a. JOKING conversation about her ex. My fiance/ father of our baby. In the conversation there were ALOT of just kidding's, and 'lol' and Hahaha's. Well she took what I said about him, took out all the haha lol and jks, and text him what 'i said' 1.it sounded like I was talking shit on him. 2. IT WAS COMPLETELY out of context.
Well he believes her without even asking me what the conversation was, and BLOWS UP ON ME! and said all.this is my fault for talking to her!?!!



I really, honestly don't know what to do..

[a06z08mama]

To me sounds like he isn't over her. Try actually talking to him about the whole thing. Not just the fb situation.

[Lala06]

Yours it's obvious she's not over him so she is going to be a bitch and she's probably trying to break you guys up. He needs to realize he is with you engaged to you and stop with her all together . I would tell her where to go and how to get there and stop talking to her

[CutieCrab]

Quoting a06z08mama:

To me sounds like he isn't over her. Try actually talking to him about the whole thing. Not just the fb situation.

[happymommy1105]

Way too much childish drama.

You stop talking to her. You should never talk about private matters with somebody whom you do not 100000000% trust.

He needs to realize that a relationship is between two people not three.

Both of you seem dumb in the situation. un friend her and move on.

[krayzbabylove]

Show him your copy of the convo..

[savdenise]

I have. All he says is that when they broke up.they promised to continue to be friends. But they didn't talk the 6 years after they broke up. Just when she found out he's with someone else.

Quoting a06z08mama:

To me sounds like he isn't over her. Try actually talking to him about the whole thing. Not just the fb situation.

[savdenise]

I showed him this morning and he apologized for blowing up on me but everything is still my fault for.talking to her.

Quoting krayzbabylove:

Show him your copy of the convo..

[a06z08mama]

Yeah that sounds fishy. All my exes I have been in contact with as friends it didn't change if I was with someone or not. And my friendships with them has never been the oh I miss you type. If it does get tharay I quit talking to them. Especially if I am in a relationship!

Quoting savdenise:

I have. All he says is that when they broke up.they promised to continue to be friends. But they didn't talk the 6 years after they broke up. Just when she found out he's with someone else.

Quoting a06z08mama:

To me sounds like he isn't over her. Try actually talking to him about the whole thing. Not just the fb situation.

[krayzbabylove]

Well I do agree, somewhat. You aren't her friend to be making jokes that are potentially hurtful to, and shouldn't have felt comfortable doing so.. he shouldnt have been talking to her either, out of respect for his fiance. All parties involved are wrong. You are not comfortable with their friendship, and felt compelled to add her on Fb because of it.. it shouldn't have been even an option. He should have ended it before it even started.

Quoting savdenise:

I showed him this morning and he apologized for blowing up on me but everything is still my fault for.talking to her.

Quoting krayzbabylove:

Show him your copy of the convo..

[mommie_x0x]

Idk why you are even asking for advice you already know the truth on the matter which is as clear as day.... She is NOT over him and he is NOT over her. and you shouldn't not of even started talking to her either. I would tell your Man what is up. Let him know how you feel and let him know its either you or her and if he picks you then he's no longer to speak to the woman