I feel bad.. maybe a little rude? thoughts?*eta*

[xomrs.chase]

My friends' baby shower is coming up, and I RSVP'd no.

Back story:
For those that remember, I have a crazy ex. He was the best man in my (same) friends' wedding- and had the nerve to talk to us (and hug me) in front of the groom... Knowing I wouldn't start drama at a wedding.

Well- their bbq style baby shower is coed.... I honestly don't want to see/ talk to/ be around my ex EVERRRrrr so I said no...

:( but I feel bad.

*eta*
Ok, more back story needed I guess-

For those who don't know, he's a very long story short.

Nice guy. Started dating. Took my v-card.

Got controlling, started playing on my insecurities, and eventually got very emotionally/ psychologically abusive. He grabbed me once. I was afraid of it turning to physical abuse.

When I left him, I had to hide for months. I moved, I changed my number, and blocked him on every social site. He used his friends and family to get to me. The threats and harassment didn't stop until 2 years later- about a week or two before my wedding.

Its more than just an ex I'd rather not run into.

[MamaHome]

I don't think it's rude. Did you explain this to your friend? If so, I think you're fine. Better than going and having it be all dramatic.

[brittanyx22]

I think you should be mature enough to go to the baby shower for your friend.

[Ruthzaad]

I agree with Brittany. I think its a little selfish of you to put your drama before your friend. Just stay away from the ex and hang with your friend. If he becomes too much of a problem explain it to your friend and then leave. I would personally be offended if that was my friends reason as to why they wouldn't come to my shower.

Quoting brittanyx22:

I think you should be mature enough to go to the baby shower for your friend.

[MomRocs1102]

That's not rude, and don't feel bad no point in going if your going to feel uncomfortable the entire time.  Call her, meet up for lunch or something and give her your gift.  She should understand

[NovaChick26]

I dont think its rude and if she is a real then she will understand why you declined the invite , or more so she just wouldnt even invite your ex because if shes your friend and she knows the history with your ex she wouldnt put you in that situation

[Army-Wife0128]

It's not rude i don't think if you explain to her and give her her gift but i also think you should go but stay way from your ex. I would go. 

[Gealach]

I wouldnt go either.

Dont borrow trouble and all that.

I would do something nice for the friend though,  maybe take her to lunch to give her her gift

[first.time.momy]

I agree with this.

Quoting MomRocs1102:

That's not rude, and don't feel bad no point in going if your going to feel uncomfortable the entire time.  Call her, meet up for lunch or something and give her your gift.  She should understand

[HisPeach]

Drop a gift off early or have it shipped to her house

[xomrs.chase]

Its not my fear of the drama returning, its a safety issue.

Quoting Ruthzaad:

I agree with Brittany. I think its a little selfish of you to put your drama before your friend. Just stay away from the ex and hang with your friend. If he becomes too much of a problem explain it to your friend and then leave. I would personally be offended if that was my friends reason as to why they wouldn't come to my shower.

Quoting brittanyx22:

I think you should be mature enough to go to the baby shower for your friend.