2 yo tantrum

[MyBigFam6]

I am starting to stress and go nuts. I feel like I lost my daughter and I'm out of ideas on how to get her back. I had this precious loving little girl and now I have this demon. She is 2 and a half years old and has been a big sister for a month, as of tomorrow. She will do normal two year old defying things yet with much more atitude all of a sudden. Throwing hands up telling me what she is going to di what I have to do or will do for her. She is demanding stuff that she once use to do one her own like grab a juice box or toy. She isn't sitting still on time out, in I tell her to do something, pick up blanket, nack up so I can walk by anything she will stare at me like I'm stupid. She will literally sot there till I'm blue in the face and stand up threating to bust her but. I have swotted her but a few times its not.my method of choice I rather time outs or corner then talking to her so she understands. I have also taken toys away for a day and then have her tell me why she lost it before she gets it back. But nothing's working like it use to.

Im and only child. I don't know a thing about being a sibling. I know that her feelings are hurt she is jealous she had told me she's jealous. I can't hold her like I use to I can't tend to her every second. I'm cracking down on things she is picking up from her teenage relatives. She isn't liking all the change. And she is throwing fits. Screaming crying yelling she wants to go bye byes. Throwing toys hitting her self and stomping screaming everything. Its scarey. I don't want my baby to feel that bad towhere she needs to do this. But I also don't know how to help her or get her to understand.
Don't get me wrong we get mommy daughter time and she gets daddy daughter time. She gets big girl treats that baby can't have and even got to stay with aunt nini like a big girl. She got big girl panties. She has gotten toys for good behavior. Yet this continues. She doesn't get these treats unless she is a big girl and listens to mommy and daddy. Any advice? I tend to either not provide enough info or out in to much. Just ask me if I wasnt clear. I want to know how to handle a tantruming two year old and how to ease this big sister thing so it doesn't get worse. (BTW she's good around him give kisses and says I love you guys. She can be throwing a fit and mad, if baby cries she's right there tryna help)

[MyBigFam6]

SORRY IM SO LONG WINDED

[GinnMom]

I'm going though this too with My dd and she turns 2 in a month ugh

[CLC21784]

Sounds like a Terrible Twos and Jealousy package all rolled into one! Sorry mama!!

As far as advice, my DS will be older when we have #2, so I don't think the jealousy will be an issue. But ATTENTION-wise, try to schedule a Mommy-daughter date with just the two of you once a week or every other week or so. Have your DH or someone watch the new baby while you take her out to Chick-fil-A, or just paint your nails together. It doesn't even have to be expensive. Make it for later in the week, write it on the calendar, and she can count down to the dates with you. My DS uses little smilie stickers on his calendar in his room to mark off every day and count down to special days. He LOVES knowing when to expect the "special" times and looking forward to them makes him so excited. 

Have you tried letting her help you with the new sibling? Even something simple, like helping fold her burp cloths, or lining out a new stack of fresh diapers when the stash on the changing table gets low? Simple things like that can help her feel more involved and more "Big Sister"ish. 

HTH!!