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That was the last thing I wanted to hear...

Posted by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 12:56 AM
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I'm sick with only god knows what. I have raging hormones and all I want to do is sleep. The last thing I wanted to get an e-mail from a guy I thought I had a really good friendship with. I've known him for over 12 years and he's been my go-to friend when I need someone to talk to. I haven't spoken to him in a few weeks as I've been busy with work and just trying to enjoy my new life. Things are going exceptionally well for me for once and I just want to soak it up. I have a full time job, a new car and a great man by my side that loves my son as if he belonged to him. So, my friend e-mailed me to give me shit for being with an older man. Then writes this:

"I love you Brandi and if you didn't have Gabe I would so be trying to get you to be my girlfriend.  So dont think that I don't ever have your best interest in mind."

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EslingerCrew11
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 12:58 AM
Is Gabe your son?
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CrystalYaris
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 12:59 AM

Yes

Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Is Gabe your son?


hello_kitty25
by Member on Sep. 19, 2012 at 12:59 AM
After 12 years? Lame o
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Slayton723
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:00 AM
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Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...
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CrystalYaris
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:00 AM

yep

Quoting hello_kitty25:

After 12 years? Lame o


EslingerCrew11
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:01 AM
Then I guess if I were you, Id tell him to kiss my ass as Im walking out of his life. Anyone who truly loves you, wouldn't put that out there like that because they'd be too busy loving your son as well.


Quoting CrystalYaris:

Yes

Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Is Gabe your son?



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CrystalYaris
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:04 AM

I pointed that out to him. He just doesn't want to be with someone that has a kid because it's not his kid. Which makes no sense to me. If that is how he feels, fine and I'm not going to try to make him change his mind. I think I'm more upset at the fact he picked the worst time to bring this up. He has always been jealous of the guys I've been with over the years and he got really upset when I announced my pregnancy. But like a good friend, he was by my side every inch of the way.

Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...


CrystalYaris
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:06 AM

Exactly! I understand that all these years he has never wanted to be with a woman that had children that weren't his own. I can respect that. But to come out like this? Wtf?

Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Then I guess if I were you, Id tell him to kiss my ass as Im walking out of his life. Anyone who truly loves you, wouldn't put that out there like that because they'd be too busy loving your son as well.


Quoting CrystalYaris:

Yes

Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Is Gabe your son?




Slayton723
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:23 AM
It sounds to me like you have a great man in your and your son's life. Tell him thanks for your concern but I'm happy, if you can't be happy for me then don't say anything.


Quoting CrystalYaris:

I pointed that out to him. He just doesn't want to be with someone that has a kid because it's not his kid. Which makes no sense to me. If that is how he feels, fine and I'm not going to try to make him change his mind. I think I'm more upset at the fact he picked the worst time to bring this up. He has always been jealous of the guys I've been with over the years and he got really upset when I announced my pregnancy. But like a good friend, he was by my side every inch of the way.

Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...



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CrystalYaris
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:28 AM

The man I'm with is absolutely amazing. I couldn't ask for better. I've known him since November, and we've been dating going on 3 months now. We stayed the night at his place yesterday so he could drop my son off at daycare for me (my mom normally does but she had to go to work earlier than usual). As we were laying down for bed he told me that if things go well between us, he'd like to adopt my son. That he loves my son has brought so much happiness to him. I said, "Goodnight! We'll discuss it another time." because it wasn't something I was prepared to hear.

Quoting Slayton723:

It sounds to me like you have a great man in your and your son's life. Tell him thanks for your concern but I'm happy, if you can't be happy for me then don't say anything.


Quoting CrystalYaris:

I pointed that out to him. He just doesn't want to be with someone that has a kid because it's not his kid. Which makes no sense to me. If that is how he feels, fine and I'm not going to try to make him change his mind. I think I'm more upset at the fact he picked the worst time to bring this up. He has always been jealous of the guys I've been with over the years and he got really upset when I announced my pregnancy. But like a good friend, he was by my side every inch of the way.

Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...




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