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That was the last thing I wanted to hear...

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I'm sick with only god knows what. I have raging hormones and all I want to do is sleep. The last thing I wanted to get an e-mail from a guy I thought I had a really good friendship with. I've known him for over 12 years and he's been my go-to friend when I need someone to talk to. I haven't spoken to him in a few weeks as I've been busy with work and just trying to enjoy my new life. Things are going exceptionally well for me for once and I just want to soak it up. I have a full time job, a new car and a great man by my side that loves my son as if he belonged to him. So, my friend e-mailed me to give me shit for being with an older man. Then writes this:

"I love you Brandi and if you didn't have Gabe I would so be trying to get you to be my girlfriend.  So dont think that I don't ever have your best interest in mind."

by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 12:56 AM
Replies (11-20):
Ruthzaad
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:30 AM

That is messed up. 

Slayton723
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:36 AM
Momma you got a good man. Hang on tight. It takes a real man to take responsibility for a child that isn't biologically his. I have a friend who has done that with another friend of mine and her two boys. You deserve to be happy! Good luck with everything. Sounds like your in a pretty good place :)


Quoting CrystalYaris:

The man I'm with is absolutely amazing. I couldn't ask for better. I've known him since November, and we've been dating going on 3 months now. We stayed the night at his place yesterday so he could drop my son off at daycare for me (my mom normally does but she had to go to work earlier than usual). As we were laying down for bed he told me that if things go well between us, he'd like to adopt my son. That he loves my son has brought so much happiness to him. I said, "Goodnight! We'll discuss it another time." because it wasn't something I was prepared to hear.

Quoting Slayton723:

It sounds to me like you have a great man in your and your son's life. Tell him thanks for your concern but I'm happy, if you can't be happy for me then don't say anything.





Quoting CrystalYaris:

I pointed that out to him. He just doesn't want to be with someone that has a kid because it's not his kid. Which makes no sense to me. If that is how he feels, fine and I'm not going to try to make him change his mind. I think I'm more upset at the fact he picked the worst time to bring this up. He has always been jealous of the guys I've been with over the years and he got really upset when I announced my pregnancy. But like a good friend, he was by my side every inch of the way.

Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...






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brandie1470
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 1:40 AM
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Hmm he's been your friend for 12 years and he is apparently romantically interested in you, but your son is stopping him. You don't want to mess with that anyway.
TempestRayne
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 10:41 AM


Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Then I guess if I were you, Id tell him to kiss my ass as Im walking out of his life. Anyone who truly loves you, wouldn't put that out there like that because they'd be too busy loving your son as well.


Quoting CrystalYaris:

Yes

Quoting EslingerCrew11:

Is Gabe your son?




Gastromama2007
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 10:43 AM
My name is Brandi :)
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Courtney610
by Courtney on Sep. 19, 2012 at 10:47 AM
Sounds like this friend is a jerk.
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MichaelsMom0711
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 5:20 PM
Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...


Yes, I agree 100%. He is probably just jealous cuz things r going well for u and that u have a real man in ur life now. So what if he is older, its his charactor and type of person he is that counts, not his age. It sucks how some people u think r ur closest friends can be ur biggest haters and try to bring u down with them. Dont let his stupid email ruin things for u! Real friends would not try to do this!
MichaelsMom0711
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 5:23 PM
Quoting Slayton723:



Exactly! Some men wont even step up to the plate for their boilogical children so if he is saying this already that means he must be a good guy and be sincere about it! :)
chelseamcnorman
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 11:17 PM

If Gabe is your son, tell him that you are a "package deal" so it's a moot point. You can even add that if you didn't have Gabe, you'd still prefer [insert new man's name] over him, so it's still a moot point. Leave it at that and fo'get aboudit. 

chelseamcnorman
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 11:22 PM

I'm with Slayton on this. That "friend" is NOT the man for you... HE EVEN ADMITTED THIS (since he can't get past your son). Sounds to me like he's just after some "play," and he's willing to destroy a friendship AND a relationship to get that. Otherwise, why would he even bring it up? 

Quoting Slayton723:

Momma you got a good man. Hang on tight. It takes a real man to take responsibility for a child that isn't biologically his. I have a friend who has done that with another friend of mine and her two boys. You deserve to be happy! Good luck with everything. Sounds like your in a pretty good place :)


Quoting CrystalYaris:

The man I'm with is absolutely amazing. I couldn't ask for better. I've known him since November, and we've been dating going on 3 months now. We stayed the night at his place yesterday so he could drop my son off at daycare for me (my mom normally does but she had to go to work earlier than usual). As we were laying down for bed he told me that if things go well between us, he'd like to adopt my son. That he loves my son has brought so much happiness to him. I said, "Goodnight! We'll discuss it another time." because it wasn't something I was prepared to hear.

Quoting Slayton723:

It sounds to me like you have a great man in your and your son's life. Tell him thanks for your concern but I'm happy, if you can't be happy for me then don't say anything.





Quoting CrystalYaris:

I pointed that out to him. He just doesn't want to be with someone that has a kid because it's not his kid. Which makes no sense to me. If that is how he feels, fine and I'm not going to try to make him change his mind. I think I'm more upset at the fact he picked the worst time to bring this up. He has always been jealous of the guys I've been with over the years and he got really upset when I announced my pregnancy. But like a good friend, he was by my side every inch of the way.

Quoting Slayton723:

Um if he really had your best interest in mind why does it matter if you have a son? If he truely loved you he'd love your son too...







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