Together 5 years, Living together 3, and a baby.....yet no ring or anything, i mean, wtf right?

[Miranda72]

So need so advice from you ladies. 

My bf and I have been together for 5 years in January. We have been living together with no breaks for just under 3 years and we have one daughter who is now 6 months old. I am 20 and he is 23 in Febuary. He still hasnt/wont propose to me. I know we aren't the most wealthy people in the world but it's not like I need the most expensive ring out there, hell, he could go get a nice $40 ring from walmart for all I care. We do everything a married couple does. I don't know why he wont propose though. Its a big deal to me b.c it signifies the fact that we are officially a family then, and I want to have the same last name as my daughter. I am tired of the looks I get when people see me with my daughter and look at me like I am just another whore that got knocked up and couldn't make it work with the dad. Lately, due to my not having health insurance and his company wont add "significant others" to the health insurance, my family has been pressuring the whole marrage deal. Because, although I am very healthy, anything could happen. I'm not so worried about getting married this very moment but I would like him to at least ask...that way I dont feel so easily replacable and stuff. Is that really so much to ask? When I ask him if he ever intends on it, he says he does. A family member of mine asked him if he thought we would get married he said, "when we are ready". Seriously, when is that?? Also, what does that even mean?? How much more "ready" could we possibly be???? His family raised him to get married and same with mine to me. We did the baby 1st so it was a bit backwards but o well.  What do you think is making him stall??? I know its a big commitment yada yada but come on, we already do it all anyways, why not make me your fiance who you intend on making your wife in the nearer future?????? let me know what you think, this is driving me nuts, im beginning to think he doesn't want to marry me ever.... :(

[bluerose26]

I've been with my fiance for 7yrs. Living together 6 3/4 yrs. We have 2kids together. We've been engaged 6 1/2 yrs. We love each other. Money is tight but we Got engaged 2yrs before we had kids.
Have you told him you don't care if its a tiny $40 ring?
Every relationship is different, he loves you give him a lil bit more time.

[sreichelt26]

The only way to solve any of this is to talk to him about it.

[bluerose26]

Oh and I'm 26 and he's 32

Quoting bluerose26:

I've been with my fiance for 7yrs. Living together 6 3/4 yrs. We have 2kids together. We've been engaged 6 1/2 yrs. We love each other. Money is tight but we Got engaged 2yrs before we had kids.
Have you told him you don't care if its a tiny $40 ring?
Every relationship is different, he loves you give him a lil bit more time.

[busymom64064]

With your post, sorry to say, seems to me as if you ARE worried about getting married.

[jesuschild06]

need to seriously talk to him about how its making you feel. If you really arent worried about getting married immediately then tell him you just need a real reason to relax about the idea. Not saying that the same thing will happen for you but thats what i did. I told my so he had to give me a REAL reason and he realized he didnt have one so we got engaged. (i actually asked him but not until he realized he didnt have a reason besides being scared)

[Chelsea_rh]

My brother and his wife were dating 10 years before her proposed....

If its that big of a deal why don't you propose to him?

[EslingerCrew11]

Talk to him, but honestly, why does he HAVE to get married, when you guys already act like yiu are? Kwim?? A lot of people think like that in these situations. He has no reason he HAS to get married when you already live together and already have a child.. Just like being married without legally being married. Gl

[queen_k0302]

I was the one who waited to get married until we had a solid relationship for 10 yrs. Everything can be right but i didnt think i was ready until then. You two deff need to have a talk.

[JerseyAirGurl]

I would discuss it... You two are still pretty young and maybe he doesn't feel the pressure since you live abd function as a married couple/family already. 

[Kimsd]

This sounds almost exactly like my situation... except, we have 2.5 kids and are older. I am 27 and he's 31!!! We've been together 5 years, lived together almost the entire time we've been together and I still don't have a ring. I also want to have the same last name as my kids, and getting married is important to me. Im not willing to wait forever for him to want it, too.

Good luck, I would make it known how you feel without being too pushy. If it is very important to you, let him know. Good luck!