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So I got the courage somewhere, somehow and did it...

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:45 PM
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Not everyone will know my situation here. But long story short, I had been in an 8 year long relationship with a man who put me through a lot. Yeah there were good times, but a lot of bad as well which caused me to be seriously depressed... In September, we were engaged and he out of the blue called it off and I moved out. Stupid me, went back to him a month later when he decided he wanted me back. Since then my mom passed away and I have been going through a lot. He hasnt been very supportive and has been lying about finances... I made my mind up about 2 weeks ago I wanted out. Tonight I finally broke the news that I am not happy and that I will be packing my things and leaving in a few days. He didnt seem too upset, and I had left to go to my dads where me and the kids will be staying and when I came back I found the kids running around the house and he was sleeping. Apparently he took one of my anti anxiety meds and fell asleep. smh.... I think this is just the beginning of a bunch of bullshit, but at the same time I feel relieved...even though a tiny part of me is afraid to be alone... sad but true. But I know I can do this. I wish my mom was here to tell me it will all be ok, but I still have my dad and he has been a great support with my choice of leaving. Alot of lonely nights ahead, but I need to find happiness and being here with him isnt that... Ugh, I just need the strength to get through this all. Its not easy by any means but I somehow managed to get the courage to say what I needed to say.
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PhoenixsMommy10
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:14 PM
You deserve someone who will treat you like their queen, and be a supportive partner. Don't settle for less, because I'm sure your mother would want you to be as happy as possible.
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XoXo.Nikki.XoXo
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:18 PM
If my mother was alive, she woudld be telling me right now "I told you so" about ever going back to him. its just so hard. I have to stay in the apartment with him the next few days til I can get my stuff out and its making it very very very hard. But I have to stay strong.


Quoting PhoenixsMommy10:

You deserve someone who will treat you like their queen, and be a supportive partner. Don't settle for less, because I'm sure your mother would want you to be as happy as possible.

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CheyennesMommy2
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:45 PM
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You will do great on your own girl!! ((hugs))
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Mommytorn
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:10 PM
It's probably not what you want to hear but you need to document him taking YOUR meds and neglecting your children..should he decide to cause problems about custody later on!!
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XoXo.Nikki.XoXo
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:40 PM
Believe me, I know.


Quoting Mommytorn:

It's probably not what you want to hear but you need to document him taking YOUR meds and neglecting your children..should he decide to cause problems about custody later on!!

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coupon_ash_back
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:47 PM
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Good. You don't need that shit.
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Mrs.Brugger
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:50 PM
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Proud of you! Stay strong.

XoXo.Nikki.XoXo
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 12:13 AM
No I dont. And of course once again, I was made to feel as though its all my fault. I know its not. I know I deserve better. I need this time alone so I can find myself and realize my true value. I have given my all, but I cant anymore. I believe a huge portion of my depression has been fighting to make this relationship work. I need someone to build me up, not bring me down.


Quoting coupon_ash_back:

Good. You don't need that shit.

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StarryRain
by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:02 AM
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I. Love. You.



And I have every single faith in you. You can and will do this on your own. You are strong, determined, smart, and a million other amazing things. I am here. We are here. Be strong.
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GirlWSemiAuto
by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:13 AM
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 I am so proud of you! You can do this! You deserve so much more than what he has given you.

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