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Interracial Families

Posted by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 2:47 PM
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Hi everyone- I don't really post a lot on here but a situation this morning made me want to put this out there to get your thoughts. My husband was working today so I took my kids out to breakfast. Now I'm white, my man is black, our son looks Puerto Rican even though he's white and black, and my man's son from a previous relationship is black. The kids and I were waiting for a table when this older lady was like "oh how cute" referring to my kids. Then she goes on to ask, "are you a social worker?" So I politely reply "uh no." But she kept on like "what a nice baby sitter you are the kids seem to love you so much!" I just reply "that's because they are my kids." I thought that would end the conversation but it didn't!! So she just stared at us a while and said "how did you do it? Adoption is so expensive and you're so young!" So at that point I had it! I just said "I gave birth to him 3 years ago and that's my stepson. Anything else you need to know?!" So she was quiet again and then she started talking to the person she was with and said- within my earshot- "can you believe that? How could anyone do that - the kids are going to be so confused. It's just wrong!" I just let it go because we were finally seated at that point. But my question is- for any of you that have interracial families or biracial children, how do you deal with the rude comments? I would have thought in 2013 people wouldn't be so ignorant. And I grew up in a very diverse town and the biracial kids seemed fine to me (obviously I don't know what was going on internally but in school they weren't bullied or anything like that.) What do you think?
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luvmybug
by Amanda on Jan. 26, 2013 at 2:54 PM
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how rude of that girl! *HUGS* 

Gastromama2007
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 2:56 PM
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I have biracial kids and nobody's ever said that to me. I hear this happens alot on cafemom but it's never happened to me...
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HotJerZMama
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:01 PM
Yeah it's never happened to me really before this. That's why I was so shocked!


Quoting Gastromama2007:

I have biracial kids and nobody's ever said that to me. I hear this happens alot on cafemom but it's never happened to me...

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Bl3ss3dMommi
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:03 PM
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I think some people can be so stupid my dd who's 8 now is white. But I'm got native American on my side and she tans really easy and gets dark and I've had a couple Pepe make rude comments about how i should be ashamed that i had amixed kid one took i was at the board walk at the beach while my red haired fair skinned dh was holding my dd and a woman told me that she ended up being escorted away bya security guard i admit i showed my ass and it wasnt pretty but it pissed me off hell no one its 100 percent anything were all mutts so no one had the right to say crap. Sorry for the mini rant!
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sashamom27159
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:05 PM

I am sorry this happened to you.I am not in a interracial family but if i heard someone talking to you like that i would have said something people are so rude.Was the women older because i find that old women just have to give your two sense weather its wrong or right

JerseyAirGurl
by *Ada* on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:07 PM
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I'm sure when it happens I will be a bitch about it. I'm hispanic and my husband is Trinidadian. Our son is 3 months and is my mini me with a slight tan. I think my husband will get the questions and he is rude and blunt... His response would def reflect it
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hnischke
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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Oh my god!! This is ridiculous! I'm white and my husband is mixed. He's on the darker side. Our son is only 25% black and you can tell that he's not all white. He's very light skinned but is only 4 mo so who knows how he'll turn out once he's out in the sun. We also have our adopted son who is 3yo that is blonde, blue eyes, and VERY white lol. I've had people make comments or give us rude looks before the kids we around. Let somebody say something about my kids and mama bear will come out to play!
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HotJerZMama
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:26 PM
Yes she was older- grey hair. So I know they grew up in a different time and everything but interracial families are common now so I'm surprised people still think like that!


Quoting sashamom27159:

I am sorry this happened to you.I am not in a interracial family but if i heard someone talking to you like that i would have said something people are so rude.Was the women older because i find that old women just have to give your two sense weather its wrong or right


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HotJerZMama
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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Lol yeah if my man was there we woulda got kicked outa the restaurant!! He never holds back lol. I really ha the urge to tell her off but I didn't want to make a scene in front of my kids. Luckily they weren't paying attention to the drama so I just let it go.


Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I'm sure when it happens I will be a bitch about it. I'm hispanic and my husband is Trinidadian. Our son is 3 months and is my mini me with a slight tan. I think my husband will get the questions and he is rude and blunt... His response would def reflect it

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JerseyAirGurl
by *Ada* on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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True that... I think my jerseyness would kick into overdrive and old lady would think twice next time lol. But at least the kids didnt have to hear the drama.

Quoting HotJerZMama:

Lol yeah if my man was there we woulda got kicked outa the restaurant!! He never holds back lol. I really ha the urge to tell her off but I didn't want to make a scene in front of my kids. Luckily they weren't paying attention to the drama so I just let it go.


Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I'm sure when it happens I will be a bitch about it. I'm hispanic and my husband is Trinidadian. Our son is 3 months and is my mini me with a slight tan. I think my husband will get the questions and he is rude and blunt... His response would def reflect it


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