update in purple :)! no you may not name our baby THAT! WWYD? (piog)
after a lot of replies from this group, adn the other that i posted, I called him. and told him we could figure out what Berta means, and look for similar meanings in the nahuatl language; that way, he honors his mom... and that way Im not stuck with a horrible baby name ( weelll.. I didnt say it like that!!-... LOL) he said it was a good idea and thanked me for making the effort to honor his mom with the baby's name : )
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLIES :)
so my hubby's moter just passed away this november. with that being said... this pregnancy has been an up and down roller coaster of emotions for him. its like bittersweet because we planned it for over a year. we tried to conceive for like 11 mos. and just when I find out I am pregnant, litterally one week after I found out, his mom passed.
so.. we are both into our AZTEC roots, and we both study the aztec language. I aslo study about the mayan callendar. and we had talked about not giving our child a spanish name.. becasue even if we choose anahuatl name, or a mayan name, and mix it with a spanish name. the spanish one is taken as the legal one, and the other one is overwritten... its a cultural thing...
my daughter's name is a mix betwen nahuatl ( the aztec language) and mayan- they are significant to her birth date. in the toltec calendar ( aztec) and the mayan callendr.
her name is Ketzalli Balam. ( kate-sally as an american once wrote it :D)
we had lready agreed that our baby would ghave a similar name, maybe not mayan, since my s/o isnt too much into the mayan callendar. we are waiting for the baby to be born so we can determine from the birth date waht name suits the baby best.
this is cultural tradition,a nd we had agreed we would handle it this way.
so Last night. he turns around and looks at me and tells me. if its a girl, he wants her to be named after his mother BERTHA..
NO WAY NOT EVER IN A MILLION YEARS will I name bertha to a daughter of mine, I hve never liked the name,. I loved my mil.. enough to change her diapers when she was sick... but this is going TOO far.
so I told him no. he asked why, i explained we had lready agreed no spanish names. or english names.. or any other language other than nahuatl.
he said ok, but I could see he is sad.
i feel guilty now but I dont like the name..