OK! So here is my dilemma ! I am 25 years old, newly re married ( will be celebrating our 1st wedding anniversary this april !) . I have a gorgeous little 4 (almost 5) year old daughter who i dont share custody of with the father. The problem, we dont have a visitation schedule set up, havent ever since she was born. he comes and goes really as he pleases. he has gone as long as 8 months with any contact with her at all ( his doing not my own ). Just recently i got word that he is thinking about taking me to court to get a visitation order written up . I wouldnt have a problem with him wanting his daughter in his life, HOWEVER, he is irresponsible, has no job, and clearly not reliable as a father or adult even. AND he lives in a trailer, which again, wouldnt be bad, except said trailer has a stripper pole in the "living room" and only one bedroom. she would have no room to herself. not to mention the place is literally falling apart. Im frustrated because i now how the state of california is with father friendly rights and shit. Has anyone else had to or is dealing with something similar ? how can i protect my daughter from dum dum !?