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I don't want my children to have braids.

Gasp! Everyone acts like it is crazy that I don't want my kids to go through a huge amount of pain for a hairstyle. I keep their hair pretty basic, when they are older if they want Cornrolls or anything fancy then so be it. Being African American does not have braids as a requirement like my friends and family seem to think.

What's so bad about not wanting that? I hate seeing kids cry out in pain for the sake of looking good.
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 10:28 PM
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mom2ljh
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 5:04 PM
I agree with you. When I see little kids with tiny, tight braids, I can't help but think how much that must have hurt. I'm glad you don't do that to your babies. From another mama, thank you. :-)
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feliciasmith
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 5:52 PM
Thanks! I just towel dry it and throw it up, which I know is awful but I dont have time to wait for it to air dry completely it would take hrs!

I'll have to try those out, what exactly is a diffuser or twist out method?


Quoting .Peaches.:

What kinds of products are you using now? How do you dry your hair?



All 3 of my DDs and I have kinky curly super thick hair. If I plan on letting them wear their loose (which isn't often) I use a special kind of towel for curly hair, and products specifically designed for curly hair. I either dry with a diffuser, or do a twist-out. Currently, my hair is in locs (dreads) so I don't have to worry about mine being frizzy.



I recommend natural products, which aren't necessarily for AA hair. Oyin is one I LOVE. Try naturally curly.com or curlmart.com, both carry tons of brands.




Quoting feliciasmith:

Maybe because your kids aren't full aa your family feels you should preserve their culture better in your kids' hair?








And I have a question :D I've been told to use hair products for aa hair because my hair is so thick and unruly, I can get it to curl nice for about 30 seconds only when it's wet. Do you use anything to keep your hair curly? (mine just frizzes up)

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MomRocs1102
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 5:52 PM

you have boys or girls?  Ds got his first hair cut at 1, I do regret cutting his hair although i wouldn't have don't braids I'm not a huge fan of braids on boys and girls i don't mind braids i use to braid my nieces hair all the time and i never braided tight to hurt her.  What i cant stand is beads, and all the colors in girls hair.  I have just never liked it, its just to much.  There is nothing wrong with you not liking braids.

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sarahjoy
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 11:39 PM

My girls have had braids from time to time... My oldest's hair is extremely thick and curly.  It makes it much easier that I don't have to do their hair every day when they have braids... the lady we have do them doesn't do them too tight.  But they cry when I just brush it.. even when trying to be gentle, they just have very tender heads lol.  So occassionally like when they have testing at school, the school 3 day camping trip or go on vacation with a family member of mine (bc they can't do their hair) they will get braids. I only leave them in for a week or two and then after I take them out the wont get them again for a few months. 

Basherte
by Bronze Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 7:06 AM

If that is what you want then that's what you do.

I don't have a problem with either having braids or not having braids. 



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.Peaches.
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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A diffuser is a special hair dryer for curly hair. You can also buy a regular dryer with a diffuser attachment.

A twist out is when you put twists in you hair, let them dry them take them out.


Quoting feliciasmith:

Thanks! I just towel dry it and throw it up, which I know is awful but I dont have time to wait for it to air dry completely it would take hrs!



I'll have to try those out, what exactly is a diffuser or twist out method?




Quoting .Peaches.:

What kinds of products are you using now? How do you dry your hair?





All 3 of my DDs and I have kinky curly super thick hair. If I plan on letting them wear their loose (which isn't often) I use a special kind of towel for curly hair, and products specifically designed for curly hair. I either dry with a diffuser, or do a twist-out. Currently, my hair is in locs (dreads) so I don't have to worry about mine being frizzy.





I recommend natural products, which aren't necessarily for AA hair. Oyin is one I LOVE. Try naturally curly.com or curlmart.com, both carry tons of brands.






Quoting feliciasmith:

Maybe because your kids aren't full aa your family feels you should preserve their culture better in your kids' hair?











And I have a question :D I've been told to use hair products for aa hair because my hair is so thick and unruly, I can get it to curl nice for about 30 seconds only when it's wet. Do you use anything to keep your hair curly? (mine just frizzes up)

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frankiesma530
by Bronze Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 9:22 AM

Braids don't have to hurt.  I never cornrowed my daughters hair except for a couple of times.  It was too much of a pain in my ass to get her to sit still.   I don't think it is a requirement.

Ladyee
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 9:29 AM

makes sense to me i never understood why ppl would braid a childs hair so tight. i braid and braids dont have to be scalp pulling tight to stay in andd besides theyre your kids do as you please

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