So my son will be turning one here in a few months. I'm starting to kinda plan his birthday party. I'm very big on birthdays, especially for my kids. My oldest is 3 and every year i make a big deal for hers. I love to celebrate the day I gave birth to them. To show off how much they have grown. To give them the spotlight for a day.
Well my DH is very different when it comes to birthdays. There no big deal to him. But he goes to them and helps me a little. But he always tells me i spend to much on decorations or things like that. He says i make there birthday about me. No I don't make it about me, i do it for my child. To celebrate them. To show them years down the road, that the day i gave birth to them, was the happiest day of my life.
So here is my problem. We are going to do a BBQ, if its nice, out at my mothers farm. We have a very large family. There will probably be 50 people there. I love my family, don't get me wrong, but i hate when some of them drink. They get loud, crazy and dont even pay attention to what there doing.
So i asked my DH today if he thinks it would be wrong if i asked in the invitation, if no one drinks. He got upset with me saying that i was being stupid. That the family always drinks at the BBQs. Well i feel that there is no reason to drink at a one year olds birthday. I don't want things getting crazy, people drunk stumbling around. Plus i dont really want to look back at pictures and see beer cans all over.
So am i wrong for asking this??What would you moms do?? And to add, i grew up with a very alcoholic family. especially my dad. I just hate alcohol period now. But i look the other way most of the time. I feel my family can respect me one day and make the day about my son and not drink. We came to the compromise to do the party early in the day, so they wont want to drink yet, but with my family, that wont stop them. Thank you laddies
Raevynn Lynn 9-29-09Remington 5-23-12