This morning at 3:00am my friend Kayla woke Josh and I up knocking at the door. She was crying and said that her and her boyfriend Kevin had been arguing so she left. When I asked what happened she told me they decided to take a shower together and while he was rinsing off she noticed a tattoo of his ex's initials on his side up near his underarm (they've been together since Aug., so it must not be very big). I thought it was ridiculous that she'd get that mad and flip out about it. I mean, it's a tattoo, there's not much he can to do get rid of it. I told her that I didn't think she should be so upset about it and she told me that she doesn't understand why I'm not upset with Josh.
Josh and I've been together since '06, married in '08 and have 4 kids (9, 4 and 6 months old twins). He was married and in the process of divorcing his (abusive) wife of 2½ years when we met/got together. He has her name, Alicia, tattooed over the top of his left knee (it's about 1½" tall, 3" long) and a tattooed wedding ring (a black band).
He tattooed my wedding band at our wedding, but having her name tattooed hasn't bothered me. He doesn't wear shorts, so the only time I see it is when he doesn't have pants on or in the shower, and it doesn't bother me to see it during sex. I don't understand why some women get so mad about this. The way I look at it is that you're supposed to love somebody for them, and I love Josh because he's Josh; those tattoos are a part of who he is. He's asked me if I wanted him to cover her name up with something and I told him no for that reason.
So, how do you ladies feel about this? Would it bother you if your boyfriend/husband had a tattoo of his ex, and would you want him to cover it up?