Yesterday my stepkids mom was starting drama with hubby. today she started in on him about me. The oldest called her to remind her to pack his meds. they are taking a vacation to florida for a week. well he told her what he needed her to remember then where it was. he was in the kitchen and since he doesnt like strawberries i was making him banana muffins. i hear her ask what that sound was and he told her that i was making him banana muffins and how much he.likes them. well i hear her mutter under her breath then ask him why i was making banana muffins. he explained his brothers like strawberries he dont so when he couldnt think of a desert for today i made him muffins. he even told her it wasnt a big deal. he told her that i enjoy making stuff like that for them and do it all the time. i heard her let her tire out then ask to speak to their father. mind you the phone is not on speaker and i shouldnt be able to hear here raising her voice asking him those questions. hubby rolls his eyes and takes the phone from him. as nice as possible he acts her whats up. she starts screaming at him that i shouldnt be baking anything for them because she cant and that if it were up to her wed buy store bought. as calmly as possible hubby tells her to stop.yelling and explains to her that weve taken the boys to a nutrtionist and since then the nine year old has not been gaining ten pounds a month. he explains to her that as much as she doesnt like hes not going to divorce me or send me awat while the boys are there. He also said if i dont have a right to help.the boys with cooking cleaning or providing for them while they are in his care then her husband doesnt. she screamed that im trying to replace her in the boys lives. He laughed and told her that ive made it more than clear thT im not trying to be their mom. they have a mom and i could never do that to her. she sighed and told him that its hard on her when the boys come home saying ive baked this or i made tgem blankets or i taught them a new way to do something. she also said i shouldnt care enough to do those things because she cant. hubby polietly reminded her that i am his wife not her. and that she remarried first and her jealousy is going to have to stop because the youngest one is giving attitude because of her attitude towards me. she appologized and asked him if i can not be here when she comes to pick up the boys tommorrow. he told her that its my house too and he couldnt ask his 8 1/2 month pregnant wife to leave because his ex wife is jealous. she hung up on him and text him she understood but its hard to see what i have. he didnt text back.
I have never been anything but nice to her. i hold my tongue and dont say anything negative about her. lord only knows if i think the boys arnt listening and they are. Im friendly to her and even explained that if i gave her a dirty look when she dropped the boys.off that was only because im in pain. ive defended hervwhen hubby gets on her case about the amount of dast food and frozen food they eat. ive defended almost everything she does. Im honestly hurt but understand at the same time. hubby told me three years ago she separated from her husband and tried to get back with hubby but he wouldnt go for it. ive tried and tried and i know she wants another child and cant have one. but how is it my fault that i love those boys enough to bake and cook and clean and talk their problems.out with them? I make it more than clwar that when it comws to switching weekends or switching custody to them living here full time that is something for their mom and dad to discuss. they know theres a very fine line i walk to make sure no boundaries are being crossed. i just wish she didnt feel like i was trying to be their mom. im doing the best i xan to keep everyone happy but it seems like shes crossing that line of standing to close to hubby when shes here and making juvenile comments. im trying and im not suee why her telling.hubby i shouldnt care hurts so much.
on Jul. 5, 2013 at 5:57 AM