Have you ever been told that you were "too big" like Jennifer Lawrence?
by Emily Abbate
I have a bit of a girl crush on Jennifer Lawrence. Yeah she's a great actress and I wish I was naturally as hilariously quirky as her character from Silver Linings Playbook, but that's not why. I have a girl crush on her because she is totally anti-dieting despite being called a "fat actress" and "obese" in Hollywood. (Her words, not mine.) In fact, Lawrence recently told Harper's Bazaar U.K. that if anyone even "tries to whisper the word 'diet,' [she's] like, 'You can go f--k yourself.'"
Whooaaaaaaa Lawry. Can I call her Lawry? That is some fire! There's no doubting that Jennifer has strong opinions about her body, ones that she won't let anyone else influence. Deep down inside, though, the actress is totally willing to admit that even though she'll never go on a diet -- all the criticisms still hurt her.
Of course they do. She's an Oscar-winning actress, not inhuman.
There comes a certain amount of validation with losing weight. When the pounds are gone, women who have worked tirelessly, sweating at the gym, counting calories, they feel validated, and they should. As a woman who has accomplished a weight loss goal myself, I can say that at the end of the long journey, I felt invincible. But just like Jennifer said to Harper's Bazaar U.K., a person never forgets what it felt like to be told they weren't good enough. You know, before.
I'll give you a scenario. When I was heavier back in high school, I distinctly remember having a major crush on this guy, walking by his lunch table, and hearing his friend talking about my size and laughing. I remember feeling absolutely ashamed of everything I was.
Years and years later I'm a totally different person. That doesn't mean, though, that I don't reflect on what was without any emotional attachment whatsoever. That doesn't mean that even though I've come to embrace my body and be proud of what I've got, I won't be sensitive to other people's criticisms.
Jennifer is confident in her own skin and knows that going forward, she'll never allow someone to make her feel small because she's not their definition of "perfect." Even though the fat-shaming still gets to her, this newfound attitude is admirable. If that kinda confidence doesn't give you butterflies too, then sue me.
Have you ever been told that you were "too big"?