First off, sorry for the book, I have been stewing for several hours.
My oldest son is 6. He goes to his paternal grandmothers on weekends during school, and during school breaks he will stay a few days, not any longer than 4 because she cannot handle him.
So tonight at 9:45 I get a call from her, and all she says is, "Here is Connor." Ummm okay. My son gets on the phone, " mommy? Can I live with my grandma?" I wait a couple seconds, letting it sink in. "No baby, you live with mommy. You have school, and friends, and cub scouts here. You can visit with grandma, but you need to live with mommy," was my response. He starts to cry, and about a minute later his dad gets on the phone. He asks me what is wrong, and I explain the situation to him.
He said that he was going to take him cosmic bowling, and asked if he can have him for a week of winter break. Didn't want to address the issue with me, because he wasn't asking if he can live with him, just with his mom.
Now, I understand my son wanting to move in with grandma, she is fun and spoils him and let's him do whatever he wants. At my house there are rules, and bedtime, homework and chores, etc. But we do fun stuff when we can. It wouldn't be so frustrating for me, except she has tried to keep my son from me before, and the cops have become involved.
I had a custody agreement with my ex that expired September 1st because we set it up to redo it when my son started first grade, so Monday morning I am going to file the papers to put in place a new agreement, because I do not want her to try to pull any bs and keep him. I am so irritated and frustrated! Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I have just let him do it? I cannot bear to live without my son, and I honestly do not feel it would be what is best for him. Once I file the papers, I will not allow her any visitation until the papers are finalized. I feel torn right now, I do not want to keep him from his grandma, but I also do not want to run the risk of her trying to take him from me!
What would you do?
on Oct. 5, 2013 at 2:48 AM