If there was an isolated incident it wouldn't be a big deal but she is always doing little things like this. my mom is always giving into my 4 year old twins and spoiling them.
She picks them up from daycare when she gets off work and I pick them up from her house at the end of the day. Today when I was getting them ready to leave she mentioned they had their big trains with them. I told her, we have trains like that I'm not taking those home. she said, "no no I went to your house after I got them from school and got those" she literally went out of her way to drive our apartment to get these trains because the 4 year old wanted them and she "didn't want to fight" with him about it.
It annoyed me. she shouldn't go completely out of her way all the way to my house to get a toy to take to her house just because a 4 year old wants it. they have 1000's of toys her house and my house. they would be fine without it.
ok granted, Matty has bipolar disorder and his meltdowns and rages can be really hard to handle, really frustrating and scary and she doesn't understand how to deal with him so she does give into him a lot because she is afraid of these meltdowns. I dont' blame her, however I keep trying to tell her, everytime you give into him and his brother, you're teaching them that they have the control. but she doesn't listen to me.