I have had problems with family members as well and if they hurt me or now my children emotionally develop a long lasting grudge.
I have had several jobs where my personality clashes with other people and I end up l losing the job.
Also there is a lot of drama in my life there always has been example my baby shower had 2 fights in the family one indirectly caused by me. My one and only grind that's a girl has moved across the country and loves skypeing with me every week but says I have an unusual amount of drama in my life.
So my mother keeps telling me that there is something wrong with me and my personality that I have have to change.
So at this point after 28 years of fighting with people and holding grudges I have no idea what to do or if it's even possible to change my personality.
I think I will just keep to myself from now on and be very quiet. Even though is think I am like that now I will just withdraw more into myself