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How My Husband & I Got Around the Santa Claus Lie

by Lisa Fogarty

If it were up to my husband, my 2-year-old would never hear the name "Santa Claus." Look, I think it's as strange as you probably do, given the fact that the object of his anger is an old man who seems pretty nice and wants nothing more out of life than to give your child lots of cool things in exchange for good behavior.

Before we had our daughter, I never thought much about Santa, but assumed we'd use him to our advantage to get our child to behave like an angel for at least one month prior to the big day. And, of course, I looked forward to showing her all of the holiday movie classics that I loved growing up -- Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Miracle on 34th Street, etc. -- none of which would exist if not for St. Nick.

Then I learned from my husband that Santa is a source of evil. And I had no choice but to find a compromise that works for both of us. 

So here's his side of the story. He feels that we work extremely hard for our money and that our daughter should grow up understanding the value of that work and appreciating that the things she gets -- especially at Christmas time -- are a result of our strong work ethic. I admire his attitude and definitely agree.

But. And this is a BIG "but." I don't want her to be the only child in her preschool or kindergarten class who doesn't believe in Santa. It strikes me as sad -- like we've already deflated the air from her young creative mind before she's had a chance to explore it fully. I remember that thrilling feeling on Christmas Eve when my mom tucked me into bed and I just knew magic was going to happen overnight. Santa wasn't just about presents. He represented something good in the world that existed for no other reason than because it existed.

Though he can put on a good, crotchety front, my husband loves holiday films and cheesy Christmas tunes as much as the next person and was able to see my point about Santa, as well. So here's how we've compromised: we will give a couple of presents to our daughter and tell her they are "from Santa," but will label the majority of them from mom and dad. If she ever asks questions that lead us to believe she is skeptical about his existence, we will drop the act and tell her the truth.

I can't promise I'll want to live up to that last part of the bargain when she's 4 and questioning how Santa brings us presents when we don't even have a chimney. But I'll try. 

Do your young children believe in Santa Claus? Do you ever have second thoughts about telling them about Santa?

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by Mandy on Dec. 10, 2013 at 9:12 AM
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 Yes my daughter believe in Santa. But my husband has tried to tell her he was Santa but she doesn't believe him. lol I guess that is a good thing.

by Kristy on Dec. 10, 2013 at 9:22 AM
Yes! :)

They are almost 8 and 3.
by on Dec. 10, 2013 at 9:53 AM
Yes. They are 7&4
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by on Dec. 10, 2013 at 10:42 AM
Growing up we didn't. I always felt left out or something. My son has decided on his own to believe
by Ruby Member on Dec. 10, 2013 at 10:53 AM

Yes she does! I am never telling her about Santa not being real, I love the magic of Santa and Christmas.

by on Dec. 10, 2013 at 12:33 PM

They believe in Santa :) My parents always told me there was no santa claus, and it wasn't like I had a horrible childhood; my parents never lied to me about anything --- Santa, Tooth Fairy --- but believing in those things aren't terrible either. So, I let my kids have the dream :)

by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 8:40 PM
Dh doesn'. Want our boys to believen Santa clause ugh. He thinks he'll be lying to them
by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 10:37 PM

Most of my kids do. I don't understand what the big deal is, really. you know that you are santa, some day your kid is going to know about santa, and know that all those presents that they loved so much came from mom and dad.

by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 10:42 PM
Yep and I have no immediate plans to burst their bubble any time soon. I love the magic of Santa Claus.
by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 10:45 PM
No. Santa is pretend and we pretend with the kids. They know this and are quite happy regardless.
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