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Posted by on Dec. 24, 2013 at 10:45 AM
KT
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How can you have gay friends but not agree with their life style? How can you say "my bestie is gaybut wouldn't support him/her if they wanted to get married"? To me you are a fake ass friend And that person deserves better people in their life
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srm8824
by on Dec. 24, 2013 at 10:47 AM
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I don't know anyone who would be that big of a hypocrite to do that. If someone is your friend you support their lifestyle.

Courtney610
by Courtney on Dec. 24, 2013 at 10:53 AM
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I never understood that either. I'm all for marriage equality!
cupcake_mom
by KT on Dec. 24, 2013 at 10:57 AM
I know tons of people who are like this. And i see it ALL the time on here

Quoting srm8824:

I don't know anyone who would be that big of a hypocrite to do that. If someone is your friend you support their lifestyle.

RheaF
by Silver Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 10:58 AM
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 I have friends that like porn, and I am VERY against that. I have friends who go out and party every weekend, drink untill they are sick, I disagree with that yet we are still friends. I have friends who do not agree with my choices and lifestyle. We are able respect each other even though we do not agree. Tolorance works both ways.

Being friends means that I am able to love them, even though I may not agree with their lifestyle, and vice versa.

esox
by Bronze Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 11:03 AM
I'm not anti gay marriage. I'm anti any marriage. The whole thing is just silly.

As for supporting friends, I don't see how that works either. Are these friends leaving when their friends decide to get married or just not attending the wedding? Are they shunning the new spouse or just staying out of the couple's bedroom?
k9l1c5
by Ruby Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 11:09 AM

Yeah I think that is weird too.

srm8824
by on Dec. 24, 2013 at 11:11 AM

Being homosexual isn't a choice, it's just a lifestyle that is different from yours. It cant be compared to being "tolerant" of someone's partying or porn watching. Those people choose to watch porn and party so I do not get what you are saying. 

I don't think being a homosexual, heterosexual, of a differnet race or genders is considered a choice and a reason to be "tolerant". It's just how you are which leads to a different lifestyle but it's not a choice.


Quoting RheaF:

 I have friends that like porn, and I am VERY against that. I have friends who go out and party every weekend, drink untill they are sick, I disagree with that yet we are still friends. I have friends who do not agree with my choices and lifestyle. We are able respect each other even though we do not agree. Tolorance works both ways.

Being friends means that I am able to love them, even though I may not agree with their lifestyle, and vice versa.


RheaF
by Silver Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 11:23 AM
Ok, that's what you believe and that's fine. I know honosexuals who do say that it was their choice, likewise I know those who say it is just how they are. I fully respect and love both. ( I am not going to argue that and beat a dead horse, lol)
I was simply explaining how it is very possible to love and respect a friend or family member even though you may not agree with their lifestyle.

Personally (cause I imagine the assumptions will be made), I believe marriage should bot be a legal institution at all. That we are given free will, and the courts saying "no you cannot marry" they are taking away that choice( yes getting married or not is a choice). So I do believe that everyone should be able to marry if they choose to. Two men/women getting married does nothing to my marriage. No more than divorce does. That does not mean I support homosexuality, I support free will and everyone's right to do as they see fit.


Quoting srm8824:

Being homosexual isn't a choice, it's just a lifestyle that is different from yours. It cant be compared to being "tolerant" of someone's partying or porn watching. Those people choose to watch porn and party so I do not get what you are saying. 

I don't think being a homosexual, heterosexual, of a differnet race or genders is considered a choice and a reason to be "tolerant". It's just how you are which leads to a different lifestyle but it's not a choice.


Quoting RheaF:

 I have friends that like porn, and I am VERY against that. I have friends who go out and party every weekend, drink untill they are sick, I disagree with that yet we are still friends. I have friends who do not agree with my choices and lifestyle. We are able respect each other even though we do not agree. Tolorance works both ways.


Being friends means that I am able to love them, even though I may not agree with their lifestyle, and vice versa.


srm8824
by on Dec. 24, 2013 at 11:27 AM
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I don't care to debate it either. I could care less who gets married and I honestly find it weird that people have the urge to control something like that. It's just odd.

That being said, I agree it is possible to love a friend and family member even if you do not agree with them. I believe it could be a choice if someone was not truly a homosexual or maybe they were just bi, whatever. I wholeheartedly believe it is not that clear cut and people do not fit in boxes, like the Kinsey scale suggests. Maybe there is a choice factor somewhere in there for some people but all in all there isn't. I didn't choose my sexual orientation and neither do most people, no matter what their preference is.

Quoting RheaF: Ok, that's what you believe and that's fine. I know honosexuals who do say that it was their choice, likewise I know those who say it is just how they are. I fully respect and love both. ( I am not going to argue that and beat a dead horse, lol)
I was simply explaining how it is very possible to love and respect a friend or family member even though you may not agree with their lifestyle.

Personally (cause I imagine the assumptions will be made), I believe marriage should bot be a legal institution at all. That we are given free will, and the courts saying "no you cannot marry" they are taking away that choice( yes getting married or not is a choice). So I do believe that everyone should be able to marry if they choose to. Two men/women getting married does nothing to my marriage. No more than divorce does. That does not mean I support homosexuality, I support free will and everyone's right to do as they see fit.


Quoting srm8824:

Being homosexual isn't a choice, it's just a lifestyle that is different from yours. It cant be compared to being "tolerant" of someone's partying or porn watching. Those people choose to watch porn and party so I do not get what you are saying. 

I don't think being a homosexual, heterosexual, of a differnet race or genders is considered a choice and a reason to be "tolerant". It's just how you are which leads to a different lifestyle but it's not a choice.


Quoting RheaF:

 I have friends that like porn, and I am VERY against that. I have friends who go out and party every weekend, drink untill they are sick, I disagree with that yet we are still friends. I have friends who do not agree with my choices and lifestyle. We are able respect each other even though we do not agree. Tolorance works both ways.


Being friends means that I am able to love them, even though I may not agree with their lifestyle, and vice versa.



Serabeth06
by Bronze Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 12:40 PM
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Well, "I" can't, but I'm not sure who specifically that generalized "you" was directed at. (: I beleive that all men and women should be equal in ALL ways, including marriage, no matter who they want to marry. But then, I love people no matter what their lifestyle is, so long as they are good people and don't hurt others, and I don't see how wanting to marry who you love is a problem.

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