I'll do my best to make sense. But I'm so irritated, so angry.
I'm 28 almost 29 years old. I have a 6 yr old ds, 7 in may, and an almost 4 month old ds. My 6 yr old is a wonderful child. He's very loving, very sweet, very outgoing and extremely impulsive. In too many ways, he's his father. (his father was diagnosed adhd at age 9) The impulsivity is becoming a problem. For example, "Son. please pick up your toys and put them in your room" He physically fights the urge to do what he is told. It's like watching the dream of yourself knowing you need to run but you can't. When he's excited he is the child that unfortunately gets in your face, knowing that he should keep his boundaries. My son is not a bad kid, he just has issues controlling his own impulses.
So, while getting my husbands hair cut after school today, my son couldn't sit still, I talked to him multiple times, I took him outside to burn energy, still, he was unable to keep himself together. This was clearly room for a "mature" lady to mumble, "some people need to discipline their kids". I was livid. Too livid to say anything, I just grabbed my kids, and waited in the car. When we got home, my son lost his privileges for the evening. We have been working with him, we have the school aware of this and have him being evaluated to find out what options we will have for him.
I discipline my child! I tell him no, he gets things taken away, he gets time outs, grounded and loss of privileges and fun activities. I teach him right from wrong, I have been working with him on proper behavior, I encourage him to do good. He's rewarded for the good, disciplined for the bad, I do everything in my power to help my child to become a better person. Excuse me for not screaming and spanking my child in your presents for you to know that I am doing the best that I FUCKING CAN!
I am here, day in and day out working with my child. I love my son more then anything on this earth and I am very well aware of his issues. Why is a child with "control" issues a result of bad parenting? Why is it as humans, we always blame the parents? I know a shitty parent or 2 with amazing kids. I know a few great parents who have issues just like I do with their kids. When you see a parent, doing the best they can with what they are given, shouldn't we be praising them for trying, instead of tearing them down because they are unsuccessful?