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Have you ever faked it? Why or why not?

Posted by on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:39 AM
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15 Real Reasons Women Give for Faking Orgasms

by Ericka Sóuter

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I don't know one sexually active adult woman who hasn't faked it a few times. For some reason, that fact always seems to surprise men. I suppose they can't bear the thought of their sexual prowess not doing the job. Of course, such a conundrum merits studies to figure out just why women would do such a thing. The latest appears in the Journal of Sexual Archives and actually claims that one reason women fake orgasms is for their own pleasure. Huh? What?

According to these scientist, pretending to reach the height of arousal actually turns us on. Sorry. I have to call b**s*** on this one. The survey of single women in their 20s also suggested that women did this to make their man feel better, but it's not always just about him. We are far more complex than that. Here is what our informal poll unearthed about what woman are really thinking when they decide to pull a Meg Ryan a la When Harry Met Sally.

  1. Real Housewives is coming on in 10 minutes.
  2. Need to walk the dog before it gets to late.
  3. Ugh. The sink is full of dishes.
  4. This is taking waaaaayyyyyy to long.
  5. I'm not gonna get their anyway, so let just wrap it up.
  6. Is that my email pinging?
  7. Did I cut the oven off?
  8. I just got a blow out and now I'm getting all sweaty.
  9. I'd rather be checking my Facebook status.
  10. The bed is making too much noise and the kids will hear.
  11. I just want to get back to my Fifty Shades
  12. I am too tired for this.
  13. That pint of mint chocolate chip is calling me.
  14. Do I hear the phone ringing?
  15. I'm just not in the mood.

It all boils down to one simple thing: women fake it because they have something else they would rather be doing.

What reasons have you faked an orgasm? Be honest!

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mama2b100808
by Mandy on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:40 AM

no I don't fake anything! Lol 

Frankiexo
by Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:41 AM
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These are by far the most pathetic excuses I've ever read. so pathetic. Number 15 is the most realistic and logical- if your phone and TV are more important than your sex life you need counseling
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Jaxsonsmama2009
by Silver Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:43 AM
I have before but not often. Usually it's just because dh already came and is trying to keep going for me. It's just not as good then.
RheaF
by Silver Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:58 AM
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 Nope, no point. Your only hurting yourself by doing that. Why not take the time and either let him know it's not gonna happen tonight (cause there are times when orgasm is just not gonna happen for us), or take the time and tell him (or show him) what works best to get you there? 

PeaceMuch
by Kali on Apr. 1, 2014 at 9:58 AM
Nope I've never faked it. I am always honest with my husband if I'm not able to achieve orgasm. It's very rare though. #9 is so messed up!
LuvMommysBabies
by on Apr. 1, 2014 at 10:02 AM
I have and #4,5,12 & 14 have been reasons I've had.
LilMamaK
by Kaht on Apr. 1, 2014 at 10:40 AM

 In all honesty, yes, I have. Awhile back before kids and XH, I was with a guy and things were great and then when we got to the bedroom... it wasn't so great. I faked it to hurry things along so I could leave because I felt like a B**** if I told him he sucked at sex... lol!

 Mommy to a beautiful daughter (7.5.08), Stepmom to an amazing son(6.5.07), and Angel baby boy(3.6.10)

MamaBear2cubs
by Nikki on Apr. 1, 2014 at 10:41 AM
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I have when I knew I wasn't going to get there and I was getting sore lol.

mumsmusingmind
by Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:29 PM

Numbers 4 and 5.  I don't really get distracted by other things, I mean unless the house was burning down.  But it's usually I'm done and he's taking waaaayyyyy too long, let's wrap this up.

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mumsmusingmind
by Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:31 PM

Do you think you're hurting yourself if you fake it for him to "wrap it up"?  I sometimes do that when I'm done and he's not.

Quoting RheaF:

 Nope, no point. Your only hurting yourself by doing that. Why not take the time and either let him know it's not gonna happen tonight (cause there are times when orgasm is just not gonna happen for us), or take the time and tell him (or show him) what works best to get you there? 


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