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What milestone has really made you cry ... that you didn't expect?

Posted by on May. 12, 2014 at 10:23 AM
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The Last Milestone You'd Expect to Make You Cry

by The Stir Bloggers

sandalsEver since Rissa was a baby it has been impossible to keep socks on her for very long.  She used to kick them off, now she yanks them off as soon as her shoes are off.

But it’s not her socks that caught my attention the other day.

Not too long ago I got used to hearing “Mama take my shoes off!” Then it morphed into “Noooo I want to do it myself!” but after a few tugs and grunts she’d cry, “I can’t do it!”

Some days I’d take over, slipping her shoes off her feet effortlessly. Other days I’d place her warm, sticky hands around her shoe or boots, showing her how to pull them off easier.

Then there were days I couldn’t put up with her flip flopping between wanting to do it all by myself! and me doing it for her.  I’d insist she would have to figure it out.  That she knew how or needed to learn.  Inside I felt awful for making her cry over shoes that wouldn’t come off.

Until she freed a foot.

Her smile radiated pride and accomplishment as she jumped for joy.  ”I did it, Mama! I did it!”

Unfortunately, Rissa couldn’t always replicate those results.  We’ve had more tantrums over shoes than any woman should have in a lifetime.

I don’t even like shoes that much.  I cry when buying them, not while kicking them off at home.

And this year has been full of shoe kicking.

The new sandals I bought her as the weather warmed up have Velcro straps. They fit her well and are easy for us to put on a wiggly toddler. For some reason, they’ve presented a challenge to Rissa. Her sandals last year were loose enough to slip in and out of and she could usually pop off her sneakers.

But something about these, with their top strap and heel strap, caused a lot of trouble.

Recently she started getting them off on her own by literally flinging her feet around after undoing the straps. Eventually they’d fly off her feet in different directions. Or she’d bang her heel against the floor until they popped off. I always knew she was taking them off because of all the noise.

Until the other day…

We returned home. Her sandals clopped along the kitchen floor as she galloped into the living room. I finished getting myself and the baby in, along with the stroller, and unloaded the diaper bag from my back. Rissa trotted past with the quiet pitter patter of bare feet.

I looked down, my throat tightening. She had taken her sandals off… effortlessly… like a big girl.

These are the silent but telling milestones that sneak up on you, reminding you that they are growing up before your eyes.

What milestone has really made you cry ... that you didn't expect?

by on May. 12, 2014 at 10:23 AM
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by Kali on May. 12, 2014 at 10:29 AM
Just recently my oldest learned to ride his bike with no training wheels. It didn't take him long. I was just so proud I got all teary eyed. Lol He has slight delays so some things are a big challenge for him but he never lets it stop him. He is the hardest working kid I know.
by Member on May. 12, 2014 at 10:40 AM
Honestly him getting up and down from the table by himself & put his plate in the sink by himself..hes 2 1/2
by on May. 12, 2014 at 11:13 AM

Jake being so.....grown up. He gets dresed and undressed by himself and just the other day he stopped doing all the fun things. We use to dance & sing to Mickey Mouse Club House & other cartoons but nope. He looked at me and said "No momma" and walked off. I started to cry. My husband found me in the bathroom sobbing lol Jake is almost 2 and does a lot of things I expect older kids to do. Put his dirty dishes in the sink, scrapes off his plate, puts his dirty clothes in the hamper.....sometimes his clean clothes LOL

Proud mommy of 1 special angel and 2 boys :-)
by on May. 12, 2014 at 12:22 PM

Being totally done with pull-ups. Nothing really signifies the end of the baby stage like having a fully potty trained kiddo.

DS night trained as soon as he turned 3, his sister was closer to 4 before she was out of pull-up at night- I didn't expect to be done with pull-ups so soon; it was a sad realizaion that the baby years are really over, especally since our son is our last child.

by Nikki on May. 12, 2014 at 2:57 PM

When my son lost his first baby tooth.

by on May. 13, 2014 at 6:55 AM
First laugh and steps
by on May. 14, 2014 at 1:53 AM
Wasn't a huge crier with my firs. -Screamed with excitement with lots of things.... with my 2nd I cry almost daily. (Born at 30 weeks gestation due to my severe case of HELLP. We have overcome lots of hurdles and dodged lots of bullets) She is a miracle to be here and I Celebrate with tears! Ok I pretty much cry all the time with both of my kids! Lol love them to pieces!
by on May. 14, 2014 at 9:33 AM
None so far
by on May. 14, 2014 at 4:39 PM
Listening to my son read & wanting to go to school. Biggest one lately that's makes me tear up is when he says mommy I love you with all my heart it just makes me cry.
by Courtney on May. 14, 2014 at 11:25 PM
My youngest sleeping in a twin bed.
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