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Cafemom never changes...

Posted by on Jul. 3, 2014 at 12:19 AM
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I joined cafemom back in 2006 when I was pregnant with my first child. I would cruise around the site, read some post and comment on. Enjoyed it for a while be eventually got tired of all the controversy so I stopped coming on. Then I decided to try it again while I was pregnant with my daughter in 2010 and quickly saw that nothing had changed. Now, its 2014, 8 years and I am on my 3rd child and it is still the same thing. Seriously, this is like high school all over again. The breastfeeding moms think the formula feeding moms are poisoning their children, formula feeding moms think breastfeeding in public is like porn, moms get bashed for asking medical questions online, working moms neglect their children, stay at home moms are lazy, too old to be a mom, too young to be a mom, don't know how to spell well enough to be a mom, etc. Anonymous posters are the meanest. Some moms who've been on cafemom for a long time have some type of "senority" which gives them the right to be mean as well. Everyone always looking for a way to scrutinize the other. Being a mom is tough no matter which mommy method you decided to use. It is sad that women are always putting each other down, especially since we get enough of that from society. Just a random thought...carry on. 

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mama2b100808
by Mandy on Jul. 3, 2014 at 7:52 AM

I do understand where you are coming from. But this group is nothing like that. I am sorry that is all you see, but how is the good ones going to help other ones if someone doesn't post something. :) Welcome Back and I do hope you stay for awhile. 

Ecookson
by New Member on Jul. 3, 2014 at 8:35 AM

This is my 3rd time joining café mom. I just try to stay away from drama groups.

mama2b100808
by Mandy on Jul. 3, 2014 at 8:38 AM

Its all you can really do. :) No one needs to come on and deal with drama online when that might have it at all already. It should be a place to get away from it. :) Welcome back and welcome to the group. :) 

Quoting Ecookson:

This is my 3rd time joining café mom. I just try to stay away from drama groups.




MamaBear2cubs
by Nikki on Jul. 3, 2014 at 11:45 AM

I've found it depends on the group your in. Some groups are worse then others. I just don't involve myself in topics that I know get inflammatory.

alyce2014
by Member on Jul. 3, 2014 at 12:32 PM
People will always find something to talk about! Even if you're not doing anything wrong, they'll make something out of nothing. But I agree with these ladies, you have to find the right group!
RUMyMummy
by Bronze Member on Jul. 3, 2014 at 2:55 PM
Just stay out of the drama groups and you won't have a problem. The option of being anonymous can be easily abused, so avoid groups with that option. It's not complicated. Cafemom is an internet site, the internet is a drama filled place with lots of personalities.
Krizzle01
by Member on Jul. 4, 2014 at 12:56 AM
Stay away from Mom confessions lol those ladies can be brutal especially when they're anonymous lol

This group and DD's birth month group (May 2014 babies) have the sweetest ladies :)
PeaceMuch
by Kali on Jul. 4, 2014 at 12:05 PM
Yep! :)

Quoting RUMyMummy: Just stay out of the drama groups and you won't have a problem. The option of being anonymous can be easily abused, so avoid groups with that option. It's not complicated. Cafemom is an internet site, the internet is a drama filled place with lots of personalities.
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