Single, Preggo Mother

[Tiff120686]

I just recently found out I was Pregnant, once again.

I currently have a 1 1/2 year old daughter, moving out into my own apt in less than 2 weeks and starting college (first time - grad back in 2005) at the end of june.

Father is the same for my daughter, and bun in the oven... He has a son who is 6 months old, he is living with the mother of his son.  They are not together, she just does not have a place to live... she's madly in love with him, and insanely jealous and raises hell with him whenever he meets me to see his daughter.  He loves her, but isn't sure if he wants to "be" with her.

Him and I are friends and get along, we just made a mistake... just now, I'm scared because I'm used to living with my family and I will officially be alone now.

He says he'll come around a lot, I believe it'll be atleast once a week, cuz that's what we do now, but I'm hesitant to believe him because of his past actions and the other girl may cause him not to, especially if they get back together.

I don't really have many friends, I had plenty when I was working, but the friendships have faded since I stopped working there.

I know I will make friends once I start school, but I'm just worried about how lonely I will get.  I was fully confident being a single mother of 1, but being preggo and single, I'm scared... and forget dating any time soon!  And then once the other baby gets here, even scarier

Any advice? Similar stories? Just anything that will give me some hope and put my mind at ease

[Chleow]

Who are you seeing K-Fed? Just joking!!! Truth, the guy sounds like a player and he has two ladies and is happy with the way things are. It is not that he doesn't know what he wants. He has things the way he wants them. She will be pregnant next. Make him pay you child support and finish your education so you don't have to wait on him to make up his mind.

[creamnshugar]

i agree with chleow. go for child support.  i was pg at 18 and had my son i never thought i would find anyone so when he was almost one i met someone and got married ( thinking i had to because there was no one else wanting to be with a single mom)and thinking that i had to get out of my parents house. and well i was divorced 7 months later.  Now im 22 and ive been living on my own for over a year with my son.  i found a guy ( after going through a lot or BAD ones) and we are expecting a baby in decemeber and looking into buying a house we dont live together at the moment.  it takes awhile and will be hard but just remember your lil ones.  they make everything worth while.  i didnt have the chance to go to school because of finances and i thought i had to have a new car once i got a good job.  Now im a factory worker and will have to put off my dream for another year or so.  You will do fine.  just keep ur chin up!!

[mominiowa]

I kindof know how you feel. when i was 22 i found out that i was preggers, and i was single. and i lived on my own. after i had my son, i lived with my parents for 1 1/2 months and then moved into my own place once again. a little over 2 years ago, i bought a house. still a single mother, i think that was the scariest thing i've ever done. outside of having my child.

i know how hard it was for me with one child being a single mother, i couldn't imagine having one and a bun in the oven. but i think as women we can do ANYTHING if we put our minds to it. i believe with all of my heart that you will do just fine.

good luck to you and i wish all the best.

rachel

[Tiff120686]

yea, as far as the father, he loves his position... especially since a little while back I wanted him too... he mentioned moving me in their apt also, haha yea right.

I don't want him now, I know that, I'm afraid at times I"ll get desperate while preg and fall back, but I hope not! :)

The other girl actually had an abortion in April... so this would've been his 4th kid!  I don't know, I made a mistake, and it's costing me, but atleast with this mistake something beautiful comes out of it!

I just get real down thinking bout the future. 

Congrats bout the new guy!  And the baby!