My mother-in-law is starting to scare me...advice?
It is such a long story that I'm sure people wouldn't care to listen to, but basicly I honestly think my MIL has some kind of mental illness. I can't begin to imagine why else she would act the way she does.
I have so many stories, but the worst things revolve around our daughter. My MIL always wanted a daughter, but had three boys. She actually dressed my brother-in-law up as a girl until he was old enough you could tell he was a boy. She was abusive and kicked my husband in the stomach so hard one time she had to take him to the ER and she would throw things, beat them with things...it was abuse, even though she says it wasn't.
My MIL stole my husband's credit right before we were married and charged $7,000 on it before my hubby found it. And then she left us to pay it off. We should have prosecuted her, but we didn't...she is very manipulative and somehow convinced us not to...but I think this also shows she doesn't know right from wrong.
But like I said, she always wanted a girl and because of the narcotics she takes (and many other things), we don't allow her to see her granddaughter...but sometimes she sits outside my house when the babysitter is there (me and hubby work split shifts and use a babysitter for 2 hours a day) and she leaves when I get home. She calls the house to talk to my daughter when I'm not there...just other things that are getting me worried. She tries to get contact with my daughter when I'm not there...something just isn't right with that.
I talked to the police about possibly getting a restraining order for my daughter against my MIL. They think it sounds like she is abusing drugs...and I agree. She constantly harrasses us by phone, text message, coming to our house, calling all our friends and family and starting rumors about us...I honestly can't take it anymore.
I hate the thought of starting legal proceedings against her...but if we have to we will. I don't want to drag my daughter through all that...with no guarantee of winning...we have never documented what she does to us...it would be our word against hers....but what if she would try to take my child? I worry about it...I feel like it is that mother's intuition thing...that she might try to take her....I don't know....
So basically I just rambled on and on...but I was hoping a third party persepctive on this situation would shed some light on what we should do...
Yesterday when my MIL started calling, I told her not to contact any of us ever again or we would contact the police....she hasn't called since...so maybe that scared her into leaving us alone???
Help please. =(
**I wanted to add that my husband and I know she wouldn't be able to take custody of her...I'm meaning taking as in kidnapping her.**