recently I have had my two step sons places with my husband and I. I know personally that both (7 and 4) have been verbally abused and neglected by not being fed at times, unclean clothes, and so on. I know that the moms ex boyfriend had physically abused the 4 year old earlier this year when they were still together. I am also wondering if the 4 year old had been sexually abused as well because earlier this year I asked him to come to me so I cna check the size of his pants because they were obviously way to small for him (in fact 3 size too small) when I went to check the tag in the back he freaked out grabbed his clothes and screamed not to hurt him and to leave his clothes on him. After getting them I had been informed of some more colorful stuff including the mom would lock the 4 yr old in a car seat and place him in front of the tv and leave him there when she couldn't handle him anymore.
We had a custody battle a few months ago and the judge thought it was better to let mom have the kids. She has had the 4 yr old since birth but the 7 yr old has lived with my mom since 18 months. During these few months the 7 yr old has pretty much forgot any manners and responsibilities he had learned when being raised with my mom. As for the 4 yr old he is in a lot of areas behind (he will be 5 this weekend).He cannot get dressed by himself, brush his teeth, stopped talking months prior to us getting him (but started to talk non stop when we got him last week), unable to form sentences, unable to speak clearly it is still mostly baby babble, doesn't understand top or bottom or other terms, and some other things as well.
I am trying to find a place to start for them. I have appointment tomorrow so they can get referals to see councelors to help them through this. They have made some big improvements while they have been here isnce last week but I knowthey need help, especially the younger one. He tries to tell us what his moms ex had done to him and then freezes and stops before he finished saying "he hurt me by".
This was the only group I could find dealing with this stuff so I am hoping anyone has some sort of advise. As well as some advice to what I can do during the time being. The boys have been placed with us while an investigation is being done on the mom. I have already sent them pics of the clothes they had been in, pictures of the 7 yr old feet that were covered in sores from being dirty and wearing no socks in shoes that were holey and too small which I took him to the hospital for while his mom still had him. Daycare has months of logs about the boys coming in the same dirty unwashed clothes days at a time, with no socks or underwear. Pictures of the wipes daycare has that they wipe the boys down every morning when they arrive to see how dirty they are which they are always brown. In short I want to make sure that they never go back to that horrible life.
Thanks for listening to me and giving me any help possible.