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hello everyone...

Apr. 7, 2008 at 1:27 PM by racefangirly
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Hello..I am new to this group...I just recently got out of a violent relationship a little over a month ago. I have a 5 year restraining order on him now..so hopefully that will help..I basically had to disapear from my home and move out of state...and it helped..new place..new job..new start for my daughter and i ..but i have been very depressed lately...seems like i break down for no reason at all...and i cant help it.. ..i miss the man i was in love with before he turned violent..we really had a really good relationship until he got back on drugs and started freakin out..blaming me for all kinds of stuff...being phisically, mentally, and sexually violent...how do i get out of my depression?...how do i move on?

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	by DivaPrincessa on Apr. 9, 2008 at 6:50 AM It gets a little easier everyday. Try to think about your new life. Put the old one behind you.
	by racefangirly on Apr. 11, 2008 at 2:37 PM Thyank you...i sure am hopeing!
	by Shwy721 on Apr. 15, 2008 at 11:21 AM The after affects of abuse stay with us for a while. It's not and never will be an easy thing to over come. Especially since it's been recent for you. It's going to take time and I know that you just wish you can live your life and move on, but you know...the important thing is that you got out and you got out alive. You are a survivor. I always say that you could never be a survivor without first recognizing yourself as a victim. Once you do that, then you can also consider yourself a survivor. I'm proud of you for getting out and I'm glad to hear you have a 5 year Order of Protection against him. That's is great. Be patient. It's a process and you just have to remain strong. I know you miss the man you fell in love with. I think we all experience that loss wondering what happened and why they turned out the way they did. The truth is that we just cant do anything about it. That is who they are and nothing we try to do to help will actually help. We cant change them no matter how hard we try. Many of us think that we can be there and try to change them and help them. We have all thought that way out of love. We dont want to lose them. Unfortunately, we cant change them and we just need to get help and move on. Every relationship starts out so sweet and wonderful. No man ever introduces themselves by punching us in the face and letting us know from the beginning what they are actually about. As time goes by and they start to get what they want how they want where they want, they start to gain access to that control and space to do just what they intend to do in the relationship. They then use fear and control to make us feel tied down and unable to move out. Well, we are here to show them we got out and they will not let them get over on us anymore. There time is up and now it's our time to shine and fight back. We are strong, We got out, and all they show is their cowardly ways by treating women as they do with all their abuse. Congrats on your getting out and joing the group and I hope that you can get everything that you are looking for from us here in the group. I'm glad to have you join us. We are your survivor sister and speaking of which, please look into the other group in which I am an admin in. It's in my signature. Feel free to click on it and join us in the Fight Back Against Domestic Violence through the laws. Once again...Thanks for joining us and feel free to post and reply and if you need to contact me direct, you can send me a message via my profile. *God Bless,* *Shwy721* *Group Owner: Domestic Violence Awareness/Support http://www.cafemom.com/group/lizdva* *Feel free to join my group. I take applications but be NOT discouraged as this is only for the safety and security of the group. Thank you. Look forward to having you come on board.* Group Administrator: Survivors Reunite: Fight Back Against Domestice Violence; fighting through the laws. http://www.cafemom.com/group/survivorsreunite Again, we take applications, but be NOT discouraged. Apply and join. We look forward to having you on board.