To Forgive or Not to Forgive

First and foremost, thank you for sharing.  I thank you for your courage as well. 

I must say that it really does sound like you took all this deeply to the heart and took it upon yourself to show him who's boss and that you will not take abuse from him.
Beware that if this keeps on happening, In the long run he will over power you and things do not get better.  Once it has started, it is not easy to stop. 
I would recommend that you start making him go take some anger management classes and/or some counceling.  Let him know that this is not a healthy situation, especially for the kids.  Talk to him on the most serious note letting him know that this sudden burst of Anger cannot be tolerated.  That this is not who you fell in love with and married and that you love him and you are having this talk with him because you love him.  You want your relationship to continue moving in the positive direction that it was moving in before this burst of anger started to take place.  Let him know how it is making you feel and that you really want to move on from it and know that things will be ok.

This is just some open advice (in my opinion), but it's all on you how you would like to handle it.

The one thing I do believe you should really consider doing for yourself and your kids, is learning all the resources that are out there to assist you should things get out of hand and get worse.  You should write everything down that took place when it did (hopefully you can remember the dates), as well as anything else from here on out, and if you can or feel up to it, go down to your local precint and simply file a report without pressing charges so that there is at least a file on him and the incident(s) that took place, which will help you in the long run.  Basically what you want to start doing and keep doing now is to keep a record of everything for yourself and future reference of anything that goes on, again...for your protection and your children's protection as well.  Talk to your mother/family about this and what you are doing so that they can all also be alert should things blow over.  You want to do this now in the early stages to protect yourself and your kids from further harm. 

I'm so glad that you have caught on to this in time and came to talk about it so early on.  It's the best thing you can do for yourself and your children.  Dont feel bad or guilty or like things are not bad enough for you to start doing this. 

I did this myself with my husband who I've been with for 10 years and married to for 7.  When things started to happen, even though I didn't think in my heart that it would get worse because I knew him better then that, I did not let those thoughts stop me.  I went and filed a report just to put on file and protect myself for any future incidents had they ever taken place.  My husband and I are well beyond it all now, though we still have some outburst ever now and then, but nothing like the abuse I felt was starting to take place over a year ago.

You can do this and especially seeing that you've come forth early on, I know you can.

Good luck with everything and my thoughts are with you all the time.  Feel free to come on and post and talk to us about it.  Keep us updated and always know that we are here for you with you.  Welcome aboard.  Very glad and proud to have you on.

Quoting Monique599:

Hello everyone. I am new to the group and am having a tough decision to make. My husband who is very mild mannered and passive hit me some months ago. He is calm, but he lets things build up then explodes. He has gotten angry like that only 2 other times since we have been together (11yrs.), but each time he walked away.

He and mine must be twins. Mine abused me once. I let him stay. For one year after that he threw things at me and tried to control me. When he came toward me with his fist balled up huffing and puffing, I told him to get out. Your problem will only get worse. Mine now says that my bruises were made by him restraining me from abusing him. That is not true. He seemed to forget about the knife he put to my throat or the way he slapped me and slammed me against the wall! He is crazy and will never change. I'm glad I called the police to put him out. He asked me twice to let him come back. I said no. I have never looked back.

Thank you for that. That is what I am afraid of. It has not happened again, but not knowing is klilling me. I am glad you got out girl!!!