What are your personal goals?

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  • anniekelleher
  on Jan. 15, 2008 at 10:42 AM
• i'd like to relax about my food choices.  i'd like to be confident i am nourishing my body appropriately so that if i want to have some fun on the weekend or at a party or on vacation its not a big deal.  i want to enjoy the foods i choose to eat.  i dont want to eat food because i should eat, i want to eat because i like it.  

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  • Busybee771
  on Jan. 16, 2008 at 1:01 AM
• 1. I want to make my life more simple. I need to slow down and cut out all the things that take up my time but I don't enjoy doing. 2. I want to eat only when I am hungry not because I am stressed out or angry. I eat intuitively most of the day until the kids come home from school. Then I am running kids to activities until early evening. I am fighting to get them to do homework and get in the shower. They fight with each other and then I just lose it. Junk food please!! 3. I need to clear up my skin. With the stress and crazy eating I still have acne at 37! It's not the horrible kind that everybody notices. It is little bumps under the skin with occasional break outs. I think I found something that is going to work as far as products go. But I am sure most of it is due to my stressful lifestyle. 4. I am going to be nice to myself and lower my expectations. I feel like I need to be perfect all the time. If I am not perfect, I feel like I have failed. I need to accept that I can't be in control of everything in my life. I need to just let some things go. Well those are my personal goals. I am trying really hard to to achieve.

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  • Angela_P71
  on Jan. 16, 2008 at 11:19 AM
• My goal is to let go of the "Guilt/Virtue" pattern with food and with exercise. I was brought up with issues about being in/out of control and the idea that all of us are always either being "good" (in control) or "bad" (out of control) based on whatever we're doing at the time. (Even doing nothing at all was "bad" because it was lazy, could be accomplishing something worthwhile.)
  
  I have rejected that paradigm in my life and am much happier. I'm also more "productive," as giving myself permission to take and enjoy some "down" time makes my "up" time that much more dynamic.
  
  Yet, I have not been able to implement that sense of freedom with food & exercise. Usually I resist doing exercise unless it "counts" for something, although maintaining a home, yard/garden, and a toddler does keep me fairly active anyway. The food issue seems to get more insidious even when I try to take a more sane approach. My first attempts to follow Intuitive Eating failed because (I now realize) I was trying to implement it as simply another set of rules. I can ONLY eat when hungry. I MUST stop as soon as I stop feeling hungry. Etc. It is hard to stop judging my choices since it has been going on pretty much as far back as I can remember. But I am becoming more aware of it, which is a very good first step.
  
  
  

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  • luvmydoxie
  on Apr. 2, 2008 at 4:47 PM
• I want to stop obsessing about my weight, about food.  I want to NOT be afraid to eat anymore because of fear I'll gain more weight.  I want to be able to silence that voice that tells me to purge when I eat.  I want to be healthy.

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  • anneb123
  on Jul. 15, 2008 at 1:40 PM
• I want to stop the anxiety surrounding food.  I want to feel good in my skin and stop basing my self-worth on a number. 
  
  But mostly, I want to be a good role model to my 2yr old daughter.  She's so observant and mimics me quite a bit already.  I don't want her to inherit my battle with the scale or my disdain for my body.  She has a cute round belly and I see her play with it because she loves it just because it's a part of her.  I love watching her dance with complete lack of self-conciousness just because she loves feeling her body move.  She eats exactly what and how much she wants and enjoys every bite (although I'd be happy if I could get some more vegetables in her).
  
  I know I can't insulate her forever from the messages that she has to look a certain way to be happy, but I figure if I can get her a good start, maybe I can help cultivate an appreciation of her body and a joy in what her body can do (rather than an obsession in what it looks like) that will give her strength not to take those messages too seriously.
  

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  • Flanders
  on Jul. 18, 2008 at 6:14 PM
• I want to clear my mind of the distractions, which are so many! I know that means experiencing ... boredom, frustration with a task i know is unfinished, frustration with a task i know i don't have the time to finish bcs housework, childcare or  urgent emails take precedence,  an unresolved "disagreement" with a loved one, my child's issues becoming my own, etc. etc.
  
  Of course i want to eat food when it is tasty and wonderfully prepared as opposed to pulled out of a bag, or grabbed on the sly. I want eating to be a special experience in addition to satisfying a physical need. Isn't food so tasty when you waited to eat it, or when you have a glass of wine to accompany it? I don't want to be afraid of food, so scared about its effects on my body. Good food is what i want, not just consumption.
  

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  • Sourkeys
  on Mar. 9, 2009 at 10:18 PM

• My personal goals are:

  To really pay attention to my hunger drive in the evenings as it is a time where I eat when I am not truly hungry. It's a mouth hunger, not a stomach hunger.

  To reduce the number of times I self-depreciate and spend more time celebrating who I am!

  To not let what or how much I ate dictate my mood.

  To not let real true stomach hunger make me feel edgy and scared.

  To be a great role model for my daughter so that she too can eat intuitively and not be body/ weigh obsessed

   

   

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  • Sourkeys
  on Mar. 9, 2009 at 10:23 PM

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  Take time for YOU! Have you ever tried some gentle YOGA. I swear by Yoga to calm me down. Even the deep breathing of Yoga alone really helps during times of stress. You don't have to run to a class, you can pick up a DVD or a book or ssearch the web for a few moves that you find relaxing. It works! Try it. Also stress can definately cause skin breakouts. Have you tried Proactive? It is really fantastic. I find the cleanser and the repair lotion is all you really need. For tougher acne try a perscription of 10% Benzol Peroxide gel. This is great stuff!

  Keep eating intuitively. The book (Intuitive Eating) is fantastic and will help keep you on track. Good luck!

  K

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  • Sourkeys
  on Mar. 9, 2009 at 10:35 PM

• Your goals really touched me and hit home with me!  I love how you described how your daughter appreciates herself. I hope too that my 7 year old daughter will always love herself for who she is.  I want to share a quote of mine that I share with my daughter . "It's better to be kind to others and  to be smart than it is to be beautiful" Maybe I could word it differently, but I hope she get's the message. I pray that I haven't somehow involuntarily/subconsciously set the stage for her to be an anorexic and bulemic like I was in my teens and 20's.

  K

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  • telltalemikey
  on Mar. 12, 2009 at 2:35 PM

• * to make peace with and accept myself, my life, the world. i want to be able to see myself the way others do. i have lost a good amount of weight, yet when i look in the mirror i see no difference. i know this is because of how i view myself inside and if i can make peace with that, whats on the outside will be okay.
  

  *heal the relatioinship i have with food. i should be grateful for it. appreciate what it does for my body. there are so many wonderful foods out there.

  *stop turning to food as a comfort.

  * exercise to feel good, not lose weight. why am i forcing myself to speedwalk hills on the tredmill when i hate every second of it? i should be taking long walks with my son, dancing, and praticing yoga!

  *pass on good lifestyle habits to my family. and peole i influence.
  

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