help!

[nicoula]

My husband plays wow a lot! I typically don't have a problem with it. Lately, I feel it's gotten out of hand. He's taking his friends from the game and starting relationships with them. I was reviewing our phone bill and uncovered his text relationship with a couple in California. ( We live on the east coast.) When I asked him, he said it's strickly game talk and idle chit chat, yet he's deleted all text messages from them. I also, found that he had sent them both pictures. When I asked what of he told me they were of our 8month old son! Has anyone else had a similar problem? What do I do?

[MrsHubler]

I am dealing with this right now.  I am actually thinking of divorcing my husband.  He has grown very close to a female who plays WoW and I didn't know it.  He can't explain to me the feelings that he has for her; but it is really hurting our marriage.

 

He also palys this game NON-STOP!  I mean he will start playing at 6-7 at night and not come to bed until about 4 am.  I can't do this anymore. 

[Isabelles_mommy]

Well I have been on the other end of that. I text a guy I used to play wow with. It's innocent, my hubby knows of him and his fiance knows of me. I don't ever plan on meeting him and we usually talked about the game. I don't delete any text messages and my hubby is welcome to view them any time.

I would tell my hubby that in order for you to trust him, he can't delete the texts. I went through a whole thing with my hubby about trust, he though i was gunna cheat on him. He now knows better. The guy on wow and I jsut joke about stuff and keep it pg, he's a friend, noone I would want to hurt my hubby over, and I even asked my hubby if he wants me to stop talking with him, and I will, he said no, b/c he trusts me.

I would try to be as open with your hubby as possible and ask him to do the same. Tell him u love him but it makes u feel very uncomfortable he is talking with this person and that he is hiding the texts. Marriage need to be an open book with the spouse, or it will fail. If he cares he will open up, it might be hard for him at 1st if he's not used to it, so don't push to hard and show him you are thankful for anything he does open up for you.

Now if he still won't open up, all u can do is talk to him, and if you get mad and try to force it, he will shut down. My hubby and I almost went through this, part b/c I wasn't doing anything wrong, jsut talking with a friend. And he had these terrible thoughts of more. After some time and us talking alot he now understands and life goes on, me happy with him and my friendship with the wow guy but again my messages r never erased and he is welcome to read them whenever.