wish me luck!

[Ahnya541]

Today my youngest daughter Isabeau is six!!! Party should be interesting her dad is in county jail and some of his family is coming and his new girlfriend! Wish us a comfortable friendly party for Isa's sake!!!! I'm more worried about my friends playing nice with my daughter's other side of the family. Because my Friends are way super protective of me and my kids. And they (my BFF's) are very vocal people where I'm the quiet stay clam type that usually keeps them out of trouble lol.

[zmama22]

have fun and tell your friends to behave! i have life long friends that still hold grudges i've given up - you gotta love them. i've told my BFF - i know you hate him, but he's going to be around for the rest of our lives so you have to figure out a way to handle it.

[Ahnya541]

I totally agree! I've already told them they have to behave lol so they don't make things worse ;)

[Ahnya541]

It went really well considering the awkwardness of it all. One of my friends said she never attend another function where Tabitha and her kids were going to be there because "She's nasty and her kids are rude. I can't believe of all the people in the world he chose to go out with her rather than work things out with you! It was just to weird!" So I think next year we will be doing separate parties 1 for his family and 1 for ours. Even though everyone was very well behaved it was just too strange!!! Isabeau had a blast though no complaints from her at all!!

[SuzyQsie63]

It is awkward but so good for the kids to see the adults that they love all get along.  I've been divorced since 2000 and my ex has remarried.  This year my oldest daughter graduated from college.  My ex & his wife threw a party and graciously invited me & my parents, as well as my 8 year old son from a relationship I had after the divorce. 

My ex's wife, as well as her aunt & sisters, came up to me throughout the evening and told me that they thought I was such a good mother and that they love my kids so much.  It was really very nice.......and extremely awkward!  I said to the aunt, and I meant it, that they all deserved credit too for how well my girls turned out because all of the new wife's family have played a big role in the girls' lives.  My kids are proof that getting along with the ex & his wife pays off.

To make the evening even more bizzairre.......later in the evening my 16 year old daughter took all of the underage children from her step-mom's family back to her dad's (my ex husband) house for a sleepover while the adullts stayed & partied.  The kids had befriended my 8 year old son and wanted him to go along.  I asked my ex's wife if she was okay with that and she said 'absolutely!' 

So my son, from my ex boyfriend, slept over at my ex-husband's house.......and had a wonderful time!  He was so happy to see where his big sister goes and he got to meet all the people she spends so much time with when she's not at my house. 

My son's father, was not so happy when he heard this.  He, of course, is not thinking about our son's feelings.....he's only thinking about himself.  Just the way I DON'T want my kids to turn out!

 

[zmama22]

it's great it worked out and you put the effort forth. i agree w/the above post about trying to work it out, as long as the new girlfriend/wife is not crazy or mistreats your child. and if the fathers act a fool, sometimes it's up to the mothers to make the relationship work, especially when siblings are involved.

[Ahnya541]

It is awkward but I believe its great for the kids! It is also definitely helping me let go of my ex we've only been split up for about three months so she is the first "friend" either of us has had. Long story as to why we split up but neither he or I wanted to so its been difficult for both of us to let go! He still tells me I'm his soul mate and that I'm his best friend. Which of course only makes it harder for me. But being around Tabitha and her kids is really helping me personally to emotionally let go and start to move on with my life. The relationship with Joe and Tabitha may not work out in the long run (I think he hooked up to soon) but I'm kind of using it as part of my cold turkey/crash course/Joe is a loser and not the man for me/get over it therapy! ;))

[zmama22]

Quoting Ahnya541:

He still tells me I'm his soul mate and that I'm his best friend. I'm kind of using it as part of my cold turkey/crash course/Joe is a loser and not the man for me/get over it therapy! ;))

good for you. he's not your soulmate if it only took him 3 months to enter a significant enough relationship to bring her around.