Update: Ex's GF issues

[Ahnya541]

After all the drama this past week I am so done with my Ex, his family and his GF. I've discovered that she (Tabitha the new GF) is an emotionally arrested 30 year old teenager. All three of her children have been abused and need serious counseling her 12 year old daughter was molested for like 8 years and displays completely inappropriate physical behaviors and boundaries. Sitting on mens laps kissing and licking peoples faces that she hardly knows. I'm afraid to say that I can't allow my children around her daughter until she has had some intense therapy and learns what is appropriate and what isn't. My fears are that since her mom says she has never noticed these behaviors she doesn't think there is a problem and when I spoke with my Ex Joe he laughed and said its harmless kinda like a security blanket because she never had a real father figure. Holding a strangers baby,kissing it all over then to start licking the side of its face is not normal or okay. The adults involved think her behaviors are okay or deny they occur. It puts me in the position of protecting my 2 children while pissing off a whole bunch of adults! But if they won't take my concerns seriously then they won't be vigilant in observing her around my kids. I don't want to take the chance of her acting on impulses to explore, exploit or violate my kids. Its saddens me that this beautiful girl doesn't have people in her life willing to help her with the horrible things that have happened to her in her past so that she doesn't have a messed up life in the future.