My ex-husband married the woman he cheated on me with. When she was the other woman she used to call up my house while I was still living there and hang up and then three days after I moved out, she moved IN!!!!! She moved in on my husband when we were having marital problems and was very aggressive to the point of practically kicking me out of my house herself!!!
Yeah, looks like we got off to a bad start....LOL...To make matters worse...I tried to bury the hatchett and be her friend. This worked out for about 3 months then on the day of my mothers funeral (my mother died from cancer), she called me up asking me if my mother had any left over pain killers and if so, could she have them?!!!!! I was infuriated beyond belief and told my ex-husband I thought she may have a drug problem. He ofcourse defended her ad nauseum....
She even had some of her friends join the same groups I belong to through Meetup so she could spy on me!!! Grrrrr......
Lord help me, but I just don't think I will ever be able to ever speak a word to her...Anyone else out there in the same boat? Anyone have any advice for coping strategies???
First, I'm sorry to hear about your mom.
As for SM, wow, she sounds like a quality person! My ex has been through 3 fiancees since my DD was born, so I have no experience in actually trying to be friends with his women (no time!). Obviously, she's addicted to narcotics, or she wouldn't have had the nerve to ask you for your mom's painkillers. I'd be very aware of what's going on over there when your kids are there.
In my opinion, you don't have to be friends with her. Has she ever apologized for sleeping with your husband while you were married? Of course not. She's living there, and has access to your kids, but beyond that, she's not a factor.
I wish I had some great advice, but all I can offer is my support.
Thanks Rowans Mom!
She is truely horrible and when I call my ex's house to speak to my kids, if she answers the phone - I will just hang up! I just can't even bring myself to utter one word to her!
I even went as far as buying my 7 YO son his own (prepaid) cellphone for him just to use to call me when he is at his dad's because I don't even want to call their home number or my ex's cell number!!!
I am worried about her obvious pain killer addiction. You would think my ex would be concerned too but he doesn't think she has a problem!!! Geez! Thank God my kids spend 75% of their time with me!!!
What a horrible, inconsiderate woman. It is just a matter of time before your ex sees who she truly is as a person. People generally create their own demise when they are horrible and karma bites you in the ass when you least expect it. Good thing your kids spend most of their time with you. Do they like being around your ex and his new wife?
the horror stories I could tell you about My Ex's OW or new wife.
one I am almost 100% sure it is a marriage off convince (green card) BUT now there is a kid she has her permitted green card!
I think she thought she was marrying MR Money Bags (LMAO) , just because he had credit cards doesn't mean he has money!
But she told the kids 9 and under (to 2) at the time, that she loved their daddy monies.
He didn't want me telling the kids of his new life .... BUT he was going to introduce the kids to her on his first weekend telling them to be nice to his new "friend". My 9 yr old at the time (almost 10) was not stupid she knew what was going on!
My 9 yr old (one of his weekends) had to protect her siblings from her.... they were all huddled in a corner locked in a room hanging on to my oldest for their life! And their dad wouldn't stick up for them!
I called the police on that one and he tried to threatened me saying IF anything happened to her ( meaning deport) I would be sorry! I told him I was not afraid of him and I didn't care what happened to her I was going to protect my kids!
He never stuck up for me the way he sticks up for her!
When they first started going out or screwing ( what ever) I kept callin her a whore , (I didn't know her name) So he tells me her name and I tell him well if she acts like a whore I am going to call it as I see it!
He gave her a diamond before he even moved out of here!
He was going to tell me about her on our 11th anniversary, found out 8 days later , he was going to tell me another time too when we were thousand miles from home! NICE guy! ( and I was with him 18 yrs too).
He went to paris (where she blongs) when we were still married to go and see her, he told me ( I didn't know about her yet though) that he was going there to check it out for US first before he took me, wanted to make sure I liked it first! I told him if he was going for another women not to come home! GEESH the look on his face you might of thought I slapped him in the face!
I think he was into threesomes, I think he thought I would be too and already had her picked out!
He did once mention a threesome told him I didn't share... call me sefish BUT I don't share my husband!
BUT I think they are into that kind of stuff.... One weekend when my kid were there at his place they had a "friend" there and he was in a room with her and Bethany (then 2) wanted her daddy and the witch told her to leave daddy alone he was having "special" time with this women, then he came out and she went in with this so called friend and at one point all three were in there!
I don't care what STD's they want to share with each other do it on ther own time not my kids weekend!
Then when I woud say something to the ex he would tell me ( sticking up for her) It's a different culture over there!!!
I have to remind him we are not over "there" she needs to get use to our culture!
I could write a book!
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on Jan. 3, 2009 at 8:09 PM