Ladies, please, i need help right away...kids, abuse, I know not "happy"..Please read.

[cj3366]

  Ladies, I beleive we're all in this "together"...I need help....if you've read any of my profile..I haven't even read in awhile..basically due to recession, we had to move in with my exhusband, so, 13fathers her is brain injured...they get agititated, yell, scream, not rational at times...he is downstairs in "studio"..he is self sufficent in wheelchair...however, abusive, I had no idea, no idea, this would happen has I look every single day to get a job to move out....I have a seven yr. old beautiful daughter..her father out in "left field", drugs, pill I have custoday and visitation decisions...its not "good" where he lives..here....he has thrown things at me downstairs....i contribute where I can..food from churches....ask on rainy days if I can take him to Phys. therapy..I can put wheelchair in car....ask to come up for dinner...stairs hard for him..no one knows why he chose this large townhouse...thank the lord for us he did now... he has paid for my cell phone. I need 4.jobs, emergency, my therapist when I don't have gas to go......he turned it off yesterday.....I, nicely gave back....we did have arguement.....we were friends, divorced 10 yrs. I helped him, spoon fed him after accident 9 yrs ago...moved us here to beach......he's just not "there" to do this with children around...his own son.....he called police last evening..poli ce"recommeneded" we leave....shelters? The take you for 30 days..then "Have a nice life"......I am from Wash. DC..I have an excellent resume...I took phys. therapy aide class when moved in here in Sept. with last of savings..WE NEED, WHATS CALLED " TRANSITIONAL HOUSING"...women stay there with children, usually Christian based, would like.......and women finish college (I have some) or are helped getting a job....a home......kids go to school and we're safe....peace.......PLEASE HELP ME FIND........GA, won't call me back, well now cell is off....Texas only takes Texians, nothng here in DE, PA didn't call or email back...none in north or south carolina.........ladies, I wouldn't ask...I'm prideful, Christian, told an excellent mother..work hard....giving...........I have to swallow pride for kids........PLEASE...anyone.....I know he's in wheelchair, however, its abuse, its all over TV now........perhaps I don't have the black and blue bleeding yet, its ALL ABUSE...DOES ANYONE?,KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT WITH "TRANSITIONAL HOUSING"....Please write me back...only if you know of anything...I can't "filter" thru emails...My email address is  [e-mail].......so I know its not spam, just add " cj -Cafe" in "subject," please...all my thanks...cj

[badwaitress11]

Call Catholic Charities or the Salvation Army.   Good Luck I am praying hard for you.

[sadiesaz1]

I would go and apply for food stamps, there is also Catholic Charities too, talk to someone at Social Services and get some information.  I know things are so bad right now due to the recession but in time hope they will improve.  good luck

[sheebs]

I work for a Salvation Army (though not in social services) and my nieces were in a shelter with their mother at one point before they came to live with us.  The shelters that will take you for up to 30 days do not just dump you, but during that time they help you find transitional housing, connect with other services you may be eligible for etc.    It definitely is not set up to dump you when your 30 days is over.  For instance our program (which deals with people in recovery) helps people get a bank account set up, get a job, attend meetings, go to church, meet with a social worker, etc and as people move out of the program we often help with utility deposits, apartment deposits, furniture from our thrift store etc.

Most people get into transitional programs through a traditional shelter program.  I know my ex SIL got help finding a place to live and connecting with a group that provided all the furniture for her home etc.

You have my sympathy.  My STBX had a brain injury in 2001 and had significant personality change that was a major factor in the failure of our marriage.  He did physically assault me when we were separated  and living in the same house, I called 911 but because I hit him back telling him to let go of me, they wouldn't remove him unless they removed both of us and took the 4 kids into custody.  He (aside from the brain injury) also has a physical disability but that didn't stop him from crossing the room, shoving me, ripping my shirt etc.

Reconsider the shelter.