Speedbump

Hi - I'm fairly new to this group, so I'll give you guys some backgroud first.  I've been with my man for 6 years now, been engaged for 3.  We had to put our wedding on the back burner because I was pregnant and didn't want the stress of having to plan a wedding.  After having two kids together, we're finally able to sit down and start planning...

We've got the guest list, the color scheme, and the cermony details done.  I even got my dress already!  We've picked a place out that we would like to have the reception and this is where we've run into our speedbump.  See, the place that we picked out charges $62 a person, and with 80 people on our guest list right now...My parents have a trust set aside for me for my wedding, and there's about $3000 in there - not much, but we can work with it, no big deal.

Here's what we get for $62 a person, though:

Five Hour Reception Package includes:

• One Hour Cocktail Reception
• Ballroom use for Four Hours
• Mirror, Votives & Fish Bowl for Centerpiece
• White or Ecru Linens
• Parquet Dance Floor
• Free Parking
• Coat Check
• Riser for Head Table and/or Band
• Four Hours Open Bar (Including Cocktail Hour)
  (Beer, Wine & Mixed Drinks – Premium Brands)
• Champagne/Sparkling Cider Toast
• Three Butler-passed hors d’oeuvres
• One hors d’oeuvre Display Station
• Buffet Salad or Soup
• Two Entrées
  (add a third entrée for $5.00 per person)
• Two Vegetables
• One Starch
• Bread and Butter
• Coffee and Tea

So, it's worth it, IMO to go with this.  I mean, it takes care of two major costs - the reception site and the catering - in one bill!  My fiance and I even told my parents we'd take care of the rest if they sprung for this, but my mom's only focusing on the cost per person, saying it's too much and it's not in the budget (which, if we did it my way - where Dave and I pay for the rest if they pay for this - it IS in the budget, but whatever).  But here's my thing - I've priced out other places, and really, this is the best deal.  My mom wants to have it at the church, though, because to rent out the church is SOOOO much cheaper.  HOWEVER, we'd be making up the other costs everywhere else, because the church only provides the site - no food, no decorations, NOTHING!

This is what I'm trying to get my mom to understand - that it's the cheapest (or least expensive, I should say) way to go - she'd get more for her buck this route than any other route...and she wouldn't have to worry about HALF as much!  Any suggestions on how I can get my mom to understand???