How do I stay strong?? Prayers Please

[precious_moment]

Where should I startI have been in the hospital for 6 weeks.NOONE came up there to see me or her.I had to wash my clothes in the shower.I went 3 days without eating.I couldnt leave the room.I felt so alone.My mother lives in alabama,and i asked her to come and just be a shoulder for me.She couldnt do it.A week after my daughter came home,my little brother called her,and wanted her to come watch him son,while the babys mom went into detox,the next day,she was here and stayed til today.Am I being selfish? Am I being childish,it really hurt me.I am dealing with a heartfelt situation.My 3 year old daughter is going thru hell,and I feel like I am losing my mind.I am Mommy,I am supposed to make it all better.I feel like I am failing somewhere.She is sick,and hurting on a daily bases.has nurses,and Dr's poking on her.And there is nothing I can do to help her in anyway.And I guess what bothers me the most,is she is one for mommy kisses for everything,and no matter what they always seemed to help,until now.My 3 year old angel looks at me with tear filled eyes,and says it still hurts mommy,kiss it again.she looks at me like I didn't do it right. Her tiny little body is rejecting her feeding button,and with out the Dr says she is slowly dying. There has to be something that I can do for her.I can not just let this thing win.She is mine,and I am not done with her.I do not want to give up,but it almost feels like I have no choice. I am sorry for babbling,I am just in pieces.  hugs to all of you who take the time to read my story,and please take one minute to say a prayer for her,I cant do this alone.This last picture is of her button fighting back.cranulation tissue keeps coming from her button site

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I am back again,I guess feeling sorry for myself once again... I am a 33 year old single mother of 3 great kids. All my life I have felt like a black sheep.Before I was a year old,my mother gave me to the state of Louisiana.I had a set of foster parents,that made me sleep in a playpen for hours each day,and was very mean to me.They were in their late 60's.Why they would let me live with older people(who knows).They decided to move out of state,and because i was state property,they couldn't take me. so here we go I jumped from home to home,no one would keep me longer than a month or 2,because my mother wouldn't let the adopt me.I had 2 younger brothers,that stayed with her(I never understood).I have never knew my dad,I was told his name,but come to find out,she doesn't really know(that's a big void to me)she says how can you miss something you never knew,I can not explain that,but I do.I somehow ended up with my mothers mom(my grandmother) eventually she gave me back to my mom when I was like 11.I was punished from school because she didn't want me having friends,I never got to have a phone call,never went anywhere with friends. I ended up quitting school,because she wouldn't let me go and my grades showed it.When I was 13,she decided I could have a party,but she was inviting my friends,and i was to like it.Half way thru it,she got mad at me,slapped me in my face,and sent me to my room for the rest of the night,and she enjoyed my party,with my friends. at the age of 15,i ran away from home,to be later returned,made it all that worse.By 17,i moved out to live with a boyfriend and his family,he cheated on me,hit me,ect. guess I rathered that than with me mom. to make a long story short.I had my children,and still she shows a big favor difference between my kids,and my brothers children.Why after all these years of being done so wrong do I hunger for her to love me,I have do everything I know to do. My brothers have been in so much trouble with the law(drugs,DUI's,robbery,credit card fraud,ect) and she says I am a bad mother,I am not worth anything,calls me a fat ass. I know I am stupid right.I just feel like i am all alone,my kids have no one,my oldest sons dad has nothing to do with him,no dad,no grandparents. my 2 younger ones,their dad has bad problems,and was very abusive,has nothing to do with either of them,but told me he wished Jacy would have been miscarried.wants her gone.. Will he get his wish? again,no dad,no grandparents. and my mom wants nothing to do with them either. Oh my what have I brought my kids into. Will they feel no one loves them? I mean really,Its a great sadness to hear my 10 year old son say,Mommy why does Nana ,love them more,she never calls us or anything.  I am braking her friends.. My daughter is so sick,and here I am wondering why things cant be different for me,that's lousy.. please pray for my peace,and strength,and my daughters health. I really love you guys. Thanks

 

P.S,

I feel real stupid doing this,but I was told to give it a try.I am a single mother,and We are having a rough time.With my daughters illness,I am unable to hold a job.My daughter is connected to an IV poll,with her feeding pump 22 hours a day.She has lost 78% of leg muscle strength from being in the hospital,and not being able to move around.The Dr. wants her to have an Infinity pump( its a backpack pump,to get her more active),which is like $400 more than what Medicaid wants to pay.(I am trying to work on that)My kids are in desperate need of clothes(I am willing to pay something for them).I know as a mother,that you tend to get things that you don't want,need,or can use,and they sit around.I have been giving things away that my kids have outgrown,because I need so much room for medical equipment Please don't think bad of me.Just thought I'd see.If anyone had anything they are willing to sell,please let me know,and maybe we can work something out. I was working at Wal-Mart,but since I hadnt been there long enough,They couldnt give me a leave,so they let me go,I have No income right now. 

Landon 10 yr old son size8 pants/ 8/10 shirts

Laramie 5 yr old son  4/5 pants  4/5 or 6 shirts

Joycelyn 3 yr old babygirl  12 months to 2T

shoes,socks,anything that kids need.Also,i am in need ofa baby monitor

again Thank you for looking at my profile,and please,I am not a beggar,please don't think bad of me..

 

Another day with a sick little girl. We still have strep or have gotten it again.And now Jacy is suffering with Scarlet fever(what?!) I feel like no matter what I do,That I cant get ahead,I feel like someone is sitting on my chest,and not allowing me to move.Seems like every timethat I think I am getting above a little water,that something else goes wrong,or something else appears.I am so scared  for her,The dr said that if this severe case of scarlet fever gets into her blood stream,we are in bad trouble.Also the strep can do the same especially having it for so long and so many times..

The only way I have to get in touch with my boys,is with my cell phone,and it is giving me a lot of trouble,it just cuts off in the middle of conversation,or just when its sitting on the table. My only way to go is also giving me trouble... ugh!  I know in life there are trials,and tribulations,but my goodness.I really don't know how much more I can handle. Jacy is still rejecting her button,and its hurting her on a daily bases,her fever is 103.5 as we speak.Please all my new friends,say a prayer for my sweet little angel.

[sgoodknight]

Melissa,,

Prayers are sent your way for your little one's and yourself.  Your children have YOU their mother!  That is all they need and you need to find comfort in that.  Your mother seems like she's never been your mother to start with but she is however your mother and for that you will always love her and WANT her to step up to that roll.  Reading your story I simply felt that she is more fond of "sons" than "daughters" and hence why you were shuffled as you were.  Its an unfortunate situation however you must you look at the life you want for your children.  They don't NEED to have grandparents but they need their mom and you are there for your children because you KNOW what's its like as you've been through it.

I hope little Jocelyn is doing better and please know that prayers are sent her way now and always.  My heart goes out to you and other mommies that have sick one's.  They are so small and so fragile and like you said we want to always comfort them and it hurts so much when we can not.  You'll have to comfort her with your love.

You take care and look up and continue to have positive thoughts.  You might feel like you are alone but you are not.

[jennifermay]

Sweetie.. I am so sorry for all that your daughter and your family are going through. You all are in our prayers and we are focusing on a health recovery for your daughter. Keep us updated. I couldn't help but cry as I saw the pictures of your beautiful daughter, she is an Angel and it made me hurt to see her that way. Remember... She has YOU... you are her Mommy and all she needs is you. It sounds like your Mom and the rest of your family are not a good support system. But that does not matter, what matters is what YOU do for your children, they are going to see how strong you are, how much you love them and all you do for them and that is what counts. Find deep inside your heart that courage to move forth, to do everything possible to change you and your families circumstances. We believe in you, we pray that she will get better and live a healthy, happy life. We are here for you girl and BELIEVE in you! You might not have your family but you have a family here on CafeMom! A great way to start focusing on what will help her and your family is a great movie, The Secret. It can help build your strength and start going towards a more positive life. You can shed those past circumstances, moments and heartache and start over from today on. Focus on your beautiful baby girl and give her all of your positive energy, thoughts, heart and feelings. Help her heal and give her your all. We all are praying for your daughter, you and your family! Lots of HUGS!

P.S. What is your address I would like to send a care package to you...

 

[CharminC]

Melissia,

Reading your story just broke my heart. No one should ever have to go through what you've been through, but God is clearly preparing you for something great by changing your character. We will keep you in our prayers for now and always and please continue to keep us posted about your little girl, your family, and yourself.

I wholeheartedly agree with Susan and Jennifer...Your children have YOU! As moms, I think we underestimate the power of our love and the comfort we give to our children. We underestimate the strength God gave us to get through any obstacles that life places in our way. Just know that you are destined for greatness. You have it within you to get through this, learn from this, grow from this, and you will be stronger.

I have some items I would like to send you. Could you please private message your mailing address to me ASAP so I can get it in the mail to you?

Sending you hugs...

God bless,