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  • MattsMom092999
  on Jan. 28, 2009 at 9:55 AM

• I am not sure how long I have been a member of this group or if I ever introduced myself so I have decided to do it again!

  Where do I start!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Ok, at the young age of 18 I started working in a grocery store and got to know one of the guys on the night shift. To make a long story short a few months later we ended up sleeping together. This was on January 6th, 1999....and that was last I heard of him....every time I went to work after that I didn't run in to him we were always working different shifts. So skip to January 26th a friend of mine who came to see me told me that she needed to go to this place for an appointment and asked me to go along....its a place that will give you free pregnancy test...thing is she just had her 2nd kid 4 weeks ago and feared she was pregnant again. When we got up there she was so worried she couldn't pee on the stick and asked if I would take one too just to make her feel comfortable....guess who was and wasn't pregnant...yup i was she wasn't ...so i called the local midwives office and they got me in for the next day so that they could find out how far along i was.....so next day i go there...i was exactly 21 days along! So of course that night when i go to work i looked to see if he was working night shift and low and behold he was....so i told him i was pregnant and immediately it is not his .... the other guys he worked with told him that he was not the only one i had been with but thing is he was the only one in the time frame...the others were way before him ...tooo far back for it to be possible i mean we are talking months

  That is when i got scared cause he wanted nothing to do with me or my unborn child that he helped to create.....i had a rough pregnancy because every one in my family wanted me to have an abortion and i was and still am totally against that and wouldn't do it.....a few months later i started seeing and old friend and we dated.....then in July we actually got married....he wanted to adopt my child as his and put his name on the birth certificate...we went the legal way and they said that if the birth father wasn't in the picture then he could sign if he wanted to!

  My son was born in September of 1999.....my husband and i split up in December of 1999 it just was not working out  (he was cheating on me with a HIPPO, no kidding that is what she looked like compared to me, i was 135 pound soaking wet and just had a baby three months prior, she was like 300 +)....we divorced and it was finalized in July of 2000 before our anniversary! We went our separate ways and when i had problems with an income i was forced to go for child support which he didn't fight! He hardly ever paid on time if he even paid at all....he would work for small farms and get paid under the table but i could never proove where to be able to report it....he would get a payroll job here and there and last a few months before quitting or getting fired which i believe was intentional because the child support would catch up with him...then in 2003 he wanted to take him every other weekend.....i allowed him to until he started dating this girl that had been in trouble and arrested for molesting a child she babysat for and I yanked my son away from that crazy biatch.....so my ex has not seen our son since April of 2003....he knew where i lived and my phone number because i always made sure to give a message to his father because that was where he was supposed to be living...

  In 2005 he decides to start saying that he wanted a paternity test and domestics basically looked at him and laughed....he said what it's not my kid....domestics guys looked at him and said we know its not ....you know its not....she knows its not....yet you put your name on the kids birth certificate....the guy actually looked at him and said "YOU SCREWED YOURSELF BUDDY!" then looked at me and said "BECAUSE OF HIS ACTIONS MY ADVICE TO YOU IS NEVER GET MARRIED OR IF YOU DO DON'T ALLOW YOUR HUSBAND TO ADOPT YOUR SON...IT'S IDIOTS LIKE YOUR EX THAT NEED TAUGHT A LESSON!!!!"

  I started dating a guy in November of 2004 and we got married in January of 2007.....he has been more of a father to my son that those two DEADBEATS ever will be....So fast forward to this past April (2008)....I hadn't drug his butt back into domestics in a while and decided since our time frame was up and they sent me a letter about a case review i wanted it done....right after our review i told him that i needed to speak to him privately when he was done talking to the domestics guys and he said ok....i go out to the waiting room to get my stuff....i see this woman peeping out the other waiting room window at me....i think she crazy cause i have never seen her....she introduced herself as his girlfriend of two years...this woman he is with now who is like 30 years older than us....i looked at her and said...."Like i care you are dating him...he is my ex husband for a reason!" She got all up in my face and said you better knock off the shit you are doing to him and dragging him and his name through the mud for support of a child that was never his to begin with...i think to myself well, well here we go again another one talking out her a** so she says that she got him a lawyer and they know i got remarried....that if i told have adoption papers drawn up to have my husband adopt my so that they were going to go for joint custody!!!!!

  THAT PUT THE BRAKES ON SERIOUSLY......i got back in her face and said...."LISTEN HERE BIT** YOU HAVE GOT NO RIGHT GETTING IN MY FACE...AND ANOTHER THING HE HAS NOT SEEN OUR SON IN 5 FREAKING YEARS THERE AIN'T NO JUDGE IN HIS OR HER RIGHT MIND THAT WOULD GRANT HIM JOINT OR PARTIAL CUSTODY HELL HE CAN'T EVEN KEEP HIS CHILD SUPPORT CURRENT!!!!!" Needless to say we were in court three times last year because he couldn't pay it and the last time i saw him outside the court room i looked at him and said look ...I HAVE A LAWYER AND PAPERS READY TO BE DRAWN UP.....PAY OFF YOUR BACK SUPPORT AND WE WILL CALL IT EVEN....THEN YOU WON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT PAYING IT ANY MORE TO ME.....JUST FOR THE REST OF THE ONES YOU HAVE OUT THERE SOMEWHERE" then he got threated with jail and his daddy bailed him out and paid almost 500 of the back support to me and nearly the same amount to his second case with another woman..... AND HERE WE ARE NOW BACK IN THE SAME BOAT....HE IS OVER 2,000 BEHIND....

   

  MY SON HAS NOT ONE BUT TWO DEADBEATS.....HIS SPERM DONOR AND MY EX HUSBAND BOTH OF WHICH HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • strongnbrave
  on Feb. 19, 2009 at 4:59 PM

• Hello my name is Ayeah and I haven't been on here in a long time but thought to reintroduce myself!!  I am a 28 mother of one 5 yr old girl who has a deadbeat dad. I been broken up with my child's sperm donor for two years and still never get any support from him. I so fed up the only time i hear from him is when he wants to come around and cause drama. I am with a Man who stepped up and took the role of being a Father to her but still my child wants to least spend time with her dead beat dad. I don't understand why he comes around only to cause drama.  He tells me that he is going to step up and buy her clothes shoes etc, but still I never see not one dime nor piece of clothing. I am going to file for full parenting but don't know if i need to get a lawyer for that if anyone can give me some advice that would be very helpful. 

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